My mother-in law and I always have a misunderstanding whenever she pay us a visit from the village. She always find one or two excuses to attack me. Last week, however, I was the victim of one of her vicious, unwarranted attacks—which my sisters-in-law had warned me about. She accused me of being unsupportive of my husband's career, selfish for wanting him to accompany me on visits to my family, and dismissive of some of my nieces and nephews.
When my husband was transferred, I didn't hesitate to leave my job, nor do I grumble much about his constant travel and long hours. I traveled to see his family more than mine. Since I know the kind of woman his mother was, I avoid her insulting words and whenever she start her trouble I try in as much as possible to control myself. I have a hard time doing the same, considering some of her comments were really cruel and unjustified. Also, I'm unhappy that my husband has not come to my defense. (He sympathized with me, but didn't follow through on speaking to his mother.)
Aside from my declaration that we won't be moving to my husband's hometown until his mother is six feet under, what should I do? What should I expect him to do?
From Mrs X.
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Posted: at 18-05-2012 04:07 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
I thnk your husband is the problem, he is using you to be on his mum's good side. Have a serious talk with your husband about this, if nothing changes after that you may have to tell your mother in law to take a hike in a polite way.
Posted: at 18-05-2012 05:49 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
mizcollins1 at 18-05-2012 06:00 PM (12 years ago) (f)
know what you going through sis....it's very difficult when dealing with an over bearing mother in law,and it makes it more frustrating when the man that calls himself your husband doesn't have your back.you need to have a very stern one on one with your husband,let him know how you feel,let him understand it's no use him feeling sympathy for you,and that what you need is his back up to tell his mother how her behaviour is affecting you and bringing strain into your marriage...goodluck,God knows it's not easy
Posted: at 18-05-2012 06:00 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
jossy4reall at 18-05-2012 06:53 PM (12 years ago) (m)
Quote from: frank_f on 18-05-2012 06:08 PM
You're eating popcorn... see your teeth like corn, very big.. Motherfcuker!!!
Bia Frankphyuk or wat u called ur self........., I knw u ar product of a licking condom.., so kip ur mouth shut let me perceive a fresh air b4 u use dat mouth odour pollute evey wia......Ikpuru like u
Love or Hate me its ur Biz, I have more important things to think abt since u never gonna change me
Posted: at 18-05-2012 06:53 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
Sophyrocks at 18-05-2012 07:00 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Its a pity Ur husband isnt Man enof 2 stand as d head of house wen its tym 4 him 2 do so.one tin i hate so much. Wud neva advise any lady 2 marry a mama's boy unless she wanna kip havin hrt attack. U hav 2 talk 2 ur husband in a firm way n make him undastnd dat he shud be a man n nt a boy unless he wants his house 2 turn in2 a war zone weneva his mum is arnd. Wen it comes 2 oda matas,he wil announce 2 d whole world dat he's d head bt 2 do so wen required he cnt. Dats rubbish na.
Life is damn too short to be sitting around miserable.
Posted: at 18-05-2012 07:00 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
ukanwnne at 18-05-2012 11:16 PM (12 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Sophyrocks on 18-05-2012 07:00 PM
Its a pity Ur husband isnt Man enof 2 stand as d head of house wen its tym 4 him 2 do so.one tin i hate so much. Wud neva advise any lady 2 marry a mama's boy unless she wanna kip havin hrt attack. U hav 2 talk 2 ur husband in a firm way n make him undastnd dat he shud be a man n nt a boy unless he wants his house 2 turn in2 a war zone weneva his mum is arnd. Wen it comes 2 oda matas,he wil announce 2 d whole world dat he's d head bt 2 do so wen required he cnt. Dats rubbish na.
d husby should cut his mother's head so dat d world 'll kw dat is d man of d house,women n their troble over all.
Posted: at 18-05-2012 11:16 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
sugaDaddy1forU at 18-05-2012 11:33 PM (12 years ago) (m)
Is a circle issue, ur daughter-inlaw will say the same thing about u too when time reaches, dont worry u'll see.....Its something about strong bondage between all mothers nd their sons, all mothers always feel nobody is good enough for their sons..... Its something u put in prayers everyday.......
P.S DON'T HATE ME BCOZ OF WHAT COMES OUT OF MY MOUTH, I DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT MYSELF, SO phyukOFF..
Posted: at 18-05-2012 11:33 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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