Her pregnancy is not mine

I am a 33-year-old guy and I have been dating a girl for eight years. We had our family introduction and we planned getting married. She is 26 years old and stays with her siblings. I live with my mother and younger sister, and even when she suggested moving in with me, I disagreed.

There was a day she told me that she was carrying my three-month-old pregnancy. But I was convinced that the pregnancy was not mine and I called her on the phone.

I was just playing smart on her and I asked her to confess or else I would have a family meeting. I told her that I had gone to a doctor with proofs that the pregnancy was not mine.

That was when she started crying and confessed that she had sex with another boyfriend 24 hours before having sex with me.

So, she was confused on who owned the pregnancy because both days were her ovulation period. She is now seven months gone and anytime I think about it, I am sad. What do I do?

R.U Abuja.

I could imagine your heart-ache, but I still believe there are ways you can verify the paternity of any child, even if you are no longer interested in marrying her. Though it could be painful to know that a partner that you are almost walking down the aisle with sleeps with someone else, there is need to exercise patience and allow sanity to reign.

What you can do now is to allow her have the baby and know the paternity later. I also believe that you should seek the opinion of your mother on this matter and let her advise you on steps to take