Should married women go clubbing?

Date: 26-04-2010 3:32 pm (13 years ago) | Author: Daniel Bosai
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- at 26-04-2010 03:32 PM (13 years ago)
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One question asked which I think would interest a hand full of people is, should married women go clubbing? Though the question refers particularly to women, I think the same can be asked on married men. Is there a straight answer like Yes they can or No they shouldn’t?
Marriage is a step into a new level of living, a different dimension a union that can either spell doom or bliss depending on the level of knowledge, wisdom and support possessed. One true fact is that you cannot continue to live as a single person after marriage. That would be recipe for argument, discord and perhaps divorce. Marriage demands new sets of rule, behaviours and attitudes in every aspect of your new life together. For every action and decision taken, your spouse needs to be considered.
Back to the question about clubbing. First, what is the reason behind your desire to go clubbing? What are your intentions? Are they noble? Is your spouse comfortable with you going out clubbing? If your spouse went with you, would he/she be comfortable with your behaviour? I guess if these questions are genuinely thought true with a true heart, the answer would be quite obvious.
The thought process should apply to other decisions you may have doubts about. In marriage it’s detrimental to take unilateral decisions without taking your spouse into consideration. Sometimes compromises need to be made to achieve harmony in the marriage. Other times you just have to agree to disagree on certain issues when a stale mate is reached. Both parties should apply equal efforts to making the union work, it’s more of a symbiotic relationship rather than parasitic. Sometimes the dominating or more outspoken spouse may tend to impose his/her desires and wishes on the other, while in the short term he/she may succeed, in the long run the outcome may not be pleasing. The crux of he matter is that both parties should dialogue and reach a decision they are both happy and comfortable with.


Posted: at 26-04-2010 03:32 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- HOPEA23 at 26-04-2010 03:35 PM (13 years ago)
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Yes she can go to club with her man(hubby).

Posted: at 26-04-2010 03:35 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- zolazola at 26-04-2010 03:37 PM (13 years ago)
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nope
Posted: at 26-04-2010 03:37 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ebony_cutie at 26-04-2010 03:38 PM (13 years ago)
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why not if not
Posted: at 26-04-2010 03:38 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- docreala at 26-04-2010 03:41 PM (13 years ago)
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if her husband goes to club,they can go just like Hopea said but if the husband doesnt,hell nah wont let her.
Posted: at 26-04-2010 03:41 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ebony_cutie at 26-04-2010 03:42 PM (13 years ago)
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correct
Posted: at 26-04-2010 03:42 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- wof at 26-04-2010 03:47 PM (13 years ago)
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i reserve my comment
Posted: at 26-04-2010 03:47 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- blings_is_back at 26-04-2010 04:04 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ebony_cutie on 26-04-2010 03:38 PM
why not if not

i wonder oh!........... me and u dey go club steady na......
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:04 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- ebony_cutie at 26-04-2010 04:10 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: blings_is_back on 26-04-2010 04:04 PM
Quote from: ebony_cutie on 26-04-2010 03:38 PM
why not if not

i wonder oh!........... me and u dey go club steady na......

Abi oooo, we catching our fun 4 club steady jare  Grin
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:10 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- spicygal08 at 26-04-2010 04:12 PM (13 years ago)
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Who she wan go c or fyn 4 there?
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:12 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- princess4life at 26-04-2010 04:18 PM (13 years ago)
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As far as i knw clubin is fun,y deny a lady d right of havin fun all in d name of marriage?personally,i see nothin wrong wit a married woman going clubin (wit her frnds)..so i say yes it's right 4 a married woman to go clubing.
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:18 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- docreala at 26-04-2010 04:23 PM (13 years ago)
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no problem,Princess4life can u  realese ur husband to go clubbing alone wif his friends?
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:23 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- princess4life at 26-04-2010 04:27 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: spicygal08 on 26-04-2010 04:12 PM
Who she wan go c or fyn 4 there?
maybe u go there 4 somtin else,as far as i can remember is a place where people go to dance. wakeup girl.
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:27 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- Tuks at 26-04-2010 04:28 PM (13 years ago)
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@Topic....Sure both couples,can go together,n not either d husband goin witout d wife,n vice versa.
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:28 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- OB3ICE at 26-04-2010 04:35 PM (13 years ago)
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If my wife is HOT, I wont mind taking her clubbin once in a while to show off, but if I'm not goin, she go talk whether her papa dey there.

Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:35 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ebony_cutie at 26-04-2010 04:38 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: OB3ICE on 26-04-2010 04:35 PM
If my wife is HOT, I wont mind taking her clubbin once in a while to show off, but if I'm not goin, she go talk whether her papa dey there.

lol, cheiii, so u wont allow me go alone?
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:38 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- rbest at 26-04-2010 04:40 PM (13 years ago)
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mbanu, if wit the hubby no probs. but if alone alu! aji gbakwa
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:40 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- princess4life at 26-04-2010 04:40 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: docreala on 26-04-2010 04:23 PM
no problem,Princess4life can u  realese ur husband to go clubbing alone wif his friends?
why not,marriage is not about checkmating ur partner, is about trusting d person u are married to. believe me or not,if u hav a cheat 4 a partner he wil cheat on u even wen u are wit him,(do u go out wit him always?)so give ur partner some freedom.
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:40 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- blings_is_back at 26-04-2010 04:48 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ebony_cutie on 26-04-2010 04:10 PM
Quote from: blings_is_back on 26-04-2010 04:04 PM
Quote from: ebony_cutie on 26-04-2010 03:38 PM
why not if not

i wonder oh!........... me and u dey go club steady na......

Abi oooo, we catching our fun 4 club steady jare  Grin

remember sey another one dey come up on friday oh
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:48 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- docreala at 26-04-2010 04:50 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: princess4life on 26-04-2010 04:40 PM
Quote from: docreala on 26-04-2010 04:23 PM
no problem,Princess4life can u  realese ur husband to go clubbing alone wif his friends?
why not,marriage is not about checkmating ur partner, is about trusting d person u are married to. believe me or not,if u hav a cheat 4 a partner he wil cheat on u even wen u are wit him,(do u go out wit him always?)so give ur partner some freedom.

freeedom,not choking ur partner, i definitely agree but not the freedom dat might lead some1 astray.its like playin wif fire & not wantin' 2 get burn.its my opinion anyway.all the best.
Posted: at 26-04-2010 04:50 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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