Help ... I am pregnant for him but ..... (Page 7)

Date: 18-12-2010 10:59 am (13 years ago) | Author: Blessing Edet
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- ILOVEIT at 18-12-2010 01:57 PM (13 years ago)
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hmmm this sounds like a cock and bull story,
but if true i just get one word for your friend "DUMB ASS" hiss

Posted: at 18-12-2010 01:57 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Pointzero at 18-12-2010 02:00 PM (13 years ago)
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she ran into our house last night..........."Blessing i do dis guy's laundry, house chores, cook for him and d likes.......and also serve him well on bed too..............now I AM PREGNANT for HIM, but he want an abortion.....cos He is scared of breaking his engage bride-to-be's heart.........and doesnt know wat to tell d family & friends, d pastor who are aware of this courtship and his upcoming wedding to his fiancee..........................but i want to keep d baby.....pls what do i do?

Pals according to her before she and dis guy started d r/ship, he had told her about his fiancee whom he had been courting for close to a year now and intended getting married to her by next year......the guy has sleept with d fiancee just once and bcos he doesnt want to be sleeping wif her often, he sent her to Abuja to stay and work with a friend of his.

pals what i want to know are these:

1. could he (d guy) be using this girl as a sex mate/bed warmer or using her to satisfy his urge?
2. why was he reserving his fiancee? Is it that he had more respect for her than d already pregnant one?
3. what should she do? cos presently she is very confused and in a delima

1 question: blessed ur friend most be a fool for falling so cheap to be that guy's bed mate knowing fully well that he is engage.
2 question: this guy is hiding his fiancee b/cos he want his wife to be fresh
3.               she should take it as she sees it ..... and should learn the lesson in case of other times ... thanks

Hahahaha Oga u dey make me laugh u dey say in case of other time wey the 1 wey dey ground big pass babalawo juju work

Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:00 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- FlyMamacita at 18-12-2010 02:01 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 18-12-2010 01:56 PM
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on 18-12-2010 01:44 PM
hmmm who says d guy is ready to help her at any level ??

No forget he want abortion


once xternal bodies like the child welfar are involved.He cannot hide 4rm it any longer
It all depends if the wife finds out!


child welfare na kinda government organisation,so e no consign the wife at all.whether she know or she no know 1ce welfare dey she go get her justice sha
I mean, if the guy is not ready for it, he is not ready for it and there is nottin she can do abt tht!
Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:01 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- mandeygo at 18-12-2010 02:05 PM (13 years ago)
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I guess its true what they both did was stupidity in the highest order.

Chances of his fiancee marrying him are slim to none (if she finds out before the wedding)

Chances of him marrying her was already zero/null from the start.

Chances of him and her getting married after the birth are even slimmer than zero/null (He'll be mad, furious, upset at her for breaking his future relation with the now ex-fiancee, and potentially hate the child in the near future -this is subject the change once he realizes the child is here to stay) - I am not sure of Nigeria child support laws but I don't believe they are easily enforceable/enforced - so chances of support from him for the child may be even slimmer still

Lastly, it may be only my opinion but chances of her getting married with a child to another man are now also slimmer

Yes, I understand she wants to keep the child - and i applaud her pro-life choices but she also has to understand being a single mum in Nigeria is hard, and raising a child without a father is not the most ideal condition for a child.

I have seen many single families and the difficulty of raising a child as a single parent, its not easy - but needless to say if her stupidity ends at this - that child will be to most important thing in the world to her.


Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:05 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- chiglamour4u at 18-12-2010 02:07 PM (13 years ago)
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serious matters she gt wat she wnt
Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:07 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Pointzero at 18-12-2010 02:13 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on 18-12-2010 02:01 PM
Quote from: Pointzero on 18-12-2010 01:56 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 18-12-2010 01:49 PM
Quote from: Pointzero on 18-12-2010 01:47 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 18-12-2010 01:44 PM
hmmm who says d guy is ready to help her at any level ??

No forget he want abortion


once xternal bodies like the child welfar are involved.He cannot hide 4rm it any longer
It all depends if the wife finds out!


child welfare na kinda government organisation,so e no consign the wife at all.whether she know or she no know 1ce welfare dey she go get her justice sha
I mean, if the guy is not ready for it, he is not ready for it and there is nottin she can do abt tht!


So far d guy dey make earnings.........there must be some grants 4rm him account to d welfare per month........hmm u no kw welfare ohh,u must ,i don witness dis kind issue in onitsha b/4

Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:13 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- FlyMamacita at 18-12-2010 02:14 PM (13 years ago)
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I knw how it goes.... But am gonna say it again, if he is not ready for it, he is not ready for it!

Even here in Belgium, a man can just stay without paying if he play smart... dont tell me u dont knw wat i mean
Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:14 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Pointzero at 18-12-2010 02:23 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on 18-12-2010 02:14 PM
I knw how it goes.... But am gonna say it again, if he is not ready for it, he is not ready for it!

Even here in Belgium, a man can just stay without paying if he play smart... dont tell me u dont knw wat i mean


Dis is no matter of playin smart unless say na 4 naija wey corruption full,but i don witness dis in onitsha b/4 n the guy is still payin uptill date,
Here in Yankee pple wey marry americans to get green kpali no dey try sleep wit their wives,cos if they do e fit result in pregnancy n u go pay welfare 4 18yrs n no where 2 run,unless u go leave here comot then u r free.but within the states u r going no where u must pay

Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:23 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- onyin at 18-12-2010 02:27 PM (13 years ago)
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@POINTZERO.Are you serious?.lol.which welfare and child support.It happened in Nigeria not england ,usa or anyother place.She's not the first lady who's getting pregnant and she wont be the last.You cant force a Nigerian man to do child support.mostly in Nigeria where there is no law.even if there is,people dont obey the law.Child support is the last thing she shoud be expecting.let her take her mind off it.I'm against abortion but I cant tell people wat to do with their lifes.But she's 27yrs,and not 18yrs.I guess she will be fine,very fine if i must say.Let her just tell the guy she's keeping the baby,and delete the guy from her memory and her life..The both of them were wrong,very wrong.so let God judge them individually.If I were her ,i will leave the guy and move on it my life cos I was the one who open my legs for him.Knowing fully well tht i'm the woman,i'm the one who will get pregnant and not him.
Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:27 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- divineproject at 18-12-2010 02:29 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 18-12-2010 01:47 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 18-12-2010 01:44 PM
hmmm who says d guy is ready to help her at any level ??

No forget he want abortion


once xternal bodies like the child welfar are involved.He cannot hide 4rm it any longer

the welfare around here are handicapped...........if the guy wants, he can flee and the girl will do nothing..........at least it happened to someone I know who tried to force the guy to take care of the pregnancy (a pregnancy he acknowledged and agreed to).........but when he went to the welfare only once, I dont know what happened, but he took to his heels..........

Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:29 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 18-12-2010 02:32 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: onyin on 18-12-2010 02:27 PM
@POINTZERO.Are you serious?.lol.which welfare and child support.It happened in Nigeria not england ,usa or anyother place.She's not the first lady who's getting pregnant and she wont be the last.You cant force a Nigerian man to do child support.mostly in Nigeria where there is no law.even if there is,people dont obey the law.Child support is the last thing she shoud be expecting.let her take her mind off it.I'm against abortion but I cant tell people wat to do with their lifes.But she's 27yrs,and not 18yrs.I guess she will be fine,very fine if i must say.Let her just tell the guy she's keeping the baby,and delete the guy from her memory and her life..The both of them were wrong,very wrong.so let God judge them individually.If I were her ,i will leave the guy and move on it my life cos I was the one who open my legs for him.Knowing fully well tht i'm the woman,i'm the one who will get pregnant and not him.
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Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:32 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Pointzero at 18-12-2010 02:33 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: onyin on 18-12-2010 02:27 PM
@POINTZERO.Are you serious?.lol.which welfare and child support.It happened in Nigeria not england ,usa or anyother place.She's not the first lady who's getting pregnant and she wont be the last.You cant force a Nigerian man to do child support.mostly in Nigeria where there is no law.even if there is,people dont obey the law.Child support is the last thing she shoud be expecting.let her take her mind off it.I'm against abortion but I cant tell people wat to do with their lifes.But she's 27yrs,and not 18yrs.I guess she will be fine,very fine if i must say.Let her just tell the guy she's keeping the baby,and delete the guy from her memory and her life..The both of them were wrong,very wrong.so let God judge them individually.If I were her ,i will leave the guy and move on it my life cos I was the one who open my legs for him.Knowing fully well tht i'm the woman,i'm the one who will get pregnant and not him.


I dey tell u say i don witness dis child welfare support 4 onitsha anambra state........n u dey tell me e no fit happen.maybe no be d same force go follow the two...but i don observe am 4 naija b/4........moreova if she delete her mind of welfare can u fund the protocols

Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:33 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- divineproject at 18-12-2010 02:37 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 18-12-2010 02:33 PM
Quote from: onyin on 18-12-2010 02:27 PM
@POINTZERO.Are you serious?.lol.which welfare and child support.It happened in Nigeria not england ,usa or anyother place.She's not the first lady who's getting pregnant and she wont be the last.You cant force a Nigerian man to do child support.mostly in Nigeria where there is no law.even if there is,people dont obey the law.Child support is the last thing she shoud be expecting.let her take her mind off it.I'm against abortion but I cant tell people wat to do with their lifes.But she's 27yrs,and not 18yrs.I guess she will be fine,very fine if i must say.Let her just tell the guy she's keeping the baby,and delete the guy from her memory and her life..The both of them were wrong,very wrong.so let God judge them individually.If I were her ,i will leave the guy and move on it my life cos I was the one who open my legs for him.Knowing fully well tht i'm the woman,i'm the one who will get pregnant and not him.


I dey tell u say i don witness dis child welfare support 4 onitsha anambra state........n u dey tell me e no fit happen.maybe no be d same force go follow the two...but i don observe am 4 naija b/4........moreova if she delete her mind of welfare can u fund the protocols

If the guy is bent on having her abort the baby and she wants to keep it, what gives you the impression he would ever want to be involved in any child support stuff?.........he will tell her she is on her own!.........

Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:37 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- onyin at 18-12-2010 02:40 PM (13 years ago)
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@POINTZERO.That one you witnessed happened becos the guy wanted to.I mean the guy feels like paying for child support not becos of the law or anything..Its as simple as ABC,she dont need any drama.the little money she will use in running after child's support ,let her keep it and start a lil savings or business.Nigeria is a lawless country.If that guy run away now ,no body fit catch am.why?.becos no data or records of people,not even "CCTV".Even the police no go even dey bothered to go find am.and she get money to bribe people?..I dont think so.You get me.
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- Priceless-jewel at 18-12-2010 02:41 PM (13 years ago)
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hmmmmmm
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- divineproject at 18-12-2010 02:47 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: onyin on 18-12-2010 02:40 PM
@POINTZERO.That one you witnessed happened becos the guy wanted to.I mean the guy feels like paying for child support not becos of the law or anything..Its as simple as ABC,she dont need any drama.the little money she will use in running after child's support ,let her keep it and start a lil savings or business.Nigeria is a lawless country.If that guy run away now ,no body fit catch am.why?.becos no data or records of people,not even "CCTV".Even the police no go even dey bothered to go find am.and she get money to bribe people?..I dont think so.You get me.

GBAM!

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- Pointzero at 18-12-2010 02:48 PM (13 years ago)
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Abeg i no fit talk again my brain don dey scatter
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- Priceless-jewel at 18-12-2010 02:52 PM (13 years ago)
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- Lizzie4Shizzie at 18-12-2010 02:53 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 18-12-2010 02:48 PM
Abeg i no fit talk again my brain don dey scatter
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LOL!..I wish u safe recovery..
Nd about d post...Its really tragic..Bt murder is a huge sin..She has commited enough sin already..Abeg make she no kill d innocent child...nd Some people might disagree with me..bt I think d future fiancee has d right 2 know wat type of Man nd marriage she's gettin in2..Infidelity isnt somthing nice @ all!!
Xtend my greetings 2 ur friend...Tell her 2 tak am easy!
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- Pointzero at 18-12-2010 02:59 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Lizzie4Shizzie on 18-12-2010 02:53 PM
Quote from: Pointzero on 18-12-2010 02:48 PM
Abeg i no fit talk again my brain don dey scatter
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LOL!..I wish u safe recovery..
Nd about d post...Its really tragic..Bt murder is a huge sin..She has commited enough sin already..Abeg make she no kill d innocent child...nd Some people might disagree with me..bt I think d future fiancee has d right 2 know wat type of Man nd marriage she's gettin in2..Infidelity isnt somthing nice @ all!!
Xtend my greetings 2 ur friend...Tell her 2 tak am easy!

hu tell u say na my friend....................i no knw her jare

Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:59 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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