a friend of mine that is engaged is having problem with her fiance about school. she got admission in Rivers State University of Education to Study Biology which is her dream course, and Rivpoly (partime) to study science lab tech. her parents are no financially stable to see her through school since her father lost his job and he is not getting any younger the only person sponsoring her school is her fiance who is saying that she has to do the patime for two years and stop at OND for the rest of her life becos he has a building project and he wants to go for his masters. but it has been her dream to be an educationist. he is dictating for her becos he is the person bring the money and he doesn't care if she is ok with it or not he gave her four reasons why she should g for the masters 1.that they may not get married at the end 2.she may betray him in school becos she may need money and he may not have to give to her 3. she may not finish becos he cant wait for her for four years 4. and if she finishes he may have gotten married to another person. the lady is just 21yrs while the guy is 28yrs. now friends what should this lady do? should she forget her dreams of becoming an educationist and marry the man becos of money to go to school and the four reasons he gave to her or should pursue her dreams and loose the man and her marriage.
Posted: at 24-01-2011 12:51 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
tmusowoya at 24-01-2011 01:17 PM (14 years ago) (m)
all up to them. education doesn't stop with marriage. I married my wife when she was reading for her diploma in science education. Now she's looking forward to her masters after obtaining her degree. Hope his fiance can be as supportive
Posted: at 24-01-2011 01:17 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
all up to them. education doesn't stop with marriage. I married my wife when she was reading for her diploma in science education. Now she's looking forward to her masters after obtaining her degree. Hope his fiance can be as supportive
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Posted: at 24-01-2011 03:20 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
FlyMamacita at 24-01-2011 03:30 PM (14 years ago) (f)
of course u neva knw wat d future go bring u...but maybe she can wait untill he finish his masters?? She is younger then him so still hav a lot of time to go for it.....i dunno oo
Posted: at 24-01-2011 03:30 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
japhethjeff at 24-01-2011 07:29 PM (14 years ago) (m)
1.that they may not get married at the end 2.she may betray him in school becos she may need money and he may not have to give to her 3. she may not finish becos he cant wait for her for four years 4. and if she finishes he may have gotten married to another person.
GOOD REASONS
Posted: at 24-01-2011 07:29 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
a friend of mine that is engaged is having problem with her fiance about school. she got admission in Rivers State University of Education to Study Biology which is her dream course, and Rivpoly (partime) to study science lab tech. her parents are no financially stable to see her through school since her father lost his job and he is not getting any younger the only person sponsoring her school is her fiance who is saying that she has to do the patime for two years and stop at OND for the rest of her life becos he has a building project and he wants to go for his masters. but it has been her dream to be an educationist. he is dictating for her becos he is the person bring the money and he doesn't care if she is ok with it or not he gave her four reasons why she should g for the masters 1.that they may not get married at the end 2.she may betray him in school becos she may need money and he may not have to give to her 3. she may not finish becos he cant wait for her for four years 4. and if she finishes he may have gotten married to another person. the lady is just 21yrs while the guy is 28yrs. now friends what should this lady do? should she forget her dreams of becoming an educationist and marry the man becos of money to go to school and the four reasons he gave to her or should pursue her dreams and loose the man and her marriage.
u can understand d guyz fear in 1&2, which can happen. the girl can hv both if she is smart. who says d guy can't change his mind if she goes ahead to marry him now. if she proves to be a good wife, i dnt think d guy will hv any reason nt to support her. she might up loosing both if she is not smart, unless she has hidden agenda of running away after being trained.
Posted: at 24-01-2011 07:37 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
Seriously,if its not her heartdesire to get married at such age,then she should not.cos she might end up regretting it.let her sit down and think very well about it. it sounds like she is vulnerable becos of the country's situation..but note,a good husband always supports his wife in everything mostly education.
Posted: at 24-01-2011 08:42 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
trolling at 24-01-2011 08:50 PM (14 years ago) (m)
What is the ultimate desire in a woman's life,is it education or marriage,education without an husband/family dont do her any good,that's why most of these colored women here (States) dont have husbands,they put their jobs before men,she has to put her husband first not education.
Posted: at 24-01-2011 08:50 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Seriously,if its not her heartdesire to get married at such age,then she should not.cos she might end up regretting it.let her sit down and think very well about it. it sounds like she is vulnerable becos of the country's situation..but note,a good husband always supports his wife in everything mostly education.
if she is vulnerable, she has a choice b4 her nd very good offer for a somebody in a vulnerable state. if she doesn't love d guy or want to marry d guy, very simple, let her move on nd try her luck elsewhr.
Posted: at 24-01-2011 08:52 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
tererachie at 24-01-2011 08:58 PM (14 years ago) (f)
well i think that love is about understanding and respecting each other@s wishes and imaginations...it is all between them 2 to ask themselves if they truely love 1 another.. to the girl,do you really love this man or you only want his money for your xool??if you love him then you should be in a good position of being able to tell him how you feel about his decisions and try to figure out some other ways you 2 can solve your problems without compromising any of your futures
Posted: at 24-01-2011 08:58 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
PLS KINDLY TELL HER THAT THE MAN IS NOT THE RIGHTFUL PERSON GOD AS DESTINED FOR HER COS IF HE WAS HE LL NOT BE TELLING HER 2 LEAVE HER DREAM AND CERTIFY IS OWN SELFISH DESIRE AND AS 4 THE FACT THAT HER PARENT ARE FINANCIALLY OK IS NOT AN EXCUSE SHE CLD SPONSOR HERSELF 2 SCHOOL BY SELLING ONE OR TWO THING IN THE SCHOOL TO SEE HERSELF THROUGH MOST IT B THE GUY THAT LL SPONSOR HER EDUCATIOON
Posted: at 24-01-2011 09:01 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
Seriously,if its not her heartdesire to get married at such age,then she should not.cos she might end up regretting it.let her sit down and think very well about it. it sounds like she is vulnerable becos of the country's situation..but note,a good husband always supports his wife in everything mostly education.
if she is vulnerable, she has a choice b4 her nd very good offer for a somebody in a vulnerable state. if she doesn't love d guy or want to marry d guy, very simple, let her move on nd try her luck elsewhr.
with her wanting to be an educationist,i dont think that's a good offer.condition or circumstances should not be a good reason for marrying early.cos at 21yrs not every lady knows exactly when they want to settle down.and yea,if she dont feel like settling down now then let her move on.
Posted: at 24-01-2011 09:07 PM (14 years ago) | Hero