Keeping your relationship at all cost (Page 9)

Date: 03-02-2011 11:18 am (13 years ago) | Author: Onyinyechi Miracle
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- MissyBarbie at 3-02-2011 02:05 PM (13 years ago)
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all i knw is that i will gv my hubby wat he wants and seeks frm outside.. 100% fear no go let him otokoto look another person na. i go nak am so tayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

My dear, leme tell u,,, its takes God's intervention 4 ur man nt to cheat on u if u like, be gving it 2 him 24/7,,, he'd definitely look outside.

i feel u thou.. but i trust my man.. he doesnt do such...the only thing i'll need do is to make sure i kip my environment clean.. becos  en no dey like see am dirty/smell.. if only i know what he likes, why not!
WHICH ENVIROMENT PLS  Shocked Shocked Shocked


Me sef dey wonder oooo

I NO FIT SHOUT ...... LEMME GO CHECK MA ENVIRONMENT  Grin Grin Grin Grin

Abeg wait for me..make i go check ma own too
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- MissyBarbie at 3-02-2011 02:06 PM (13 years ago)
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@post, I have discovered that woman have so much to do to keep their relationships, although it should be a dual responsibility...........

But honestly, if I am not married to that man, I will let go but if I am married to him, I will see that as my 'cross' in that marriage to carry.  I have no divorce in my dictionary.  It is a taboo amongst women from my lineage (paternal and maternal lineage) and I wont break that......I have to confess that I have already conditioned my mind for anything, becos I have found out that most married men cheat on their wives, it would take a spirit-filled man and the grace of God to prevent a man from cheating.........


really nice comment  but dont u think the load of maintaining the relationship will be too heave on one person?

My dear, I dont know but it seems nature has given the woman a lot of responsibilities.  In this case making a relationship work seems to depend more on the woman than man..........Maybe it is becos it is easier for a divorced man to get married again than for a woman.......or maybe becos it is not strange for a man to have more than one wife but for a woman to be married to more than one man at once is not the norm........

Besides, men are faced with a lot of temptation out there (am not trying to make excuses for them)...........and you would notice that one of their problem in this case is their eyes.  They dont need to come close to a woman before they are tempted (by what they see), but for the women (who have problem with their ears), you need to have met them before you start discussing (start telling them all those 'sweet' lies)..........

hmmmmmm.
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- Treasure2 at 3-02-2011 02:07 PM (13 years ago)
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en prick go red na, den en no go fit use am nack outside Grin Grin Grin


He may think u've got fire between ur legs and may look for icewater somewhere  Grin Grin Grin Grin

yes i have fire to burn and ice water to quench



lolz my ribs are cracking  Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin


Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked ONCE A WHILE IS GUD TO TURN THEM RED SO THEY WIL LEARN THEY LESSON


 Grin Grin Grin Grin red or no red some can be very stubburn  Grin Grin Grin Grin
NA HARD CORE DEM BE.
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- divineproject at 3-02-2011 02:07 PM (13 years ago)
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@post, I have discovered that woman have so much to do to keep their relationships, although it should be a dual responsibility...........

But honestly, if I am not married to that man, I will let go but if I am married to him, I will see that as my 'cross' in that marriage to carry.  I have no divorce in my dictionary.  It is a taboo amongst women from my lineage (paternal and maternal lineage) and I wont break that......I have to confess that I have already conditioned my mind for anything, becos i have found out that most married men cheat on their wives... huh Huh?, it would take a spirit-filled man and the grace of God to prevent a man from cheating.........
pls where did you get those findings from? cuz i'll like to get more backups proof from you..

My dear, the evidence is everywhere........even a blunt married friend of mine (male confirmed it)......he said 99% of married men cheat.......the day he told me that I shivered but I believe inside of me that the percentage is high.....but even at that, the cheating married men outnumber the faithful ones..........

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- dirtykid at 3-02-2011 02:09 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: onyiis on  3-02-2011 02:01 PM
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Few things could lead a man outside to start cheating.. and those things women see it as common, but it means allot to most Men !!

Poster>> I don't think i will do anything to save or keep an Infidelity relationship, Once i discovered about that, is all over !! The only thing could make me even look up her, is if we had children, I must do everything to be closer to my child/children often, but for her, there is no going backward!!


But u know in most countries u can have their custody as a man?

If Laws permit them to be under my custody, I will be so glad to have them and also guide them in the right way. thats all. There's no need trying to amend and keep a relationship whereby your partner will not stay up to another 3 months she/he will cheat again. such person can't stop doing that, No matter how hard one try, Instead of watching yourself get hurt, is better to quit it.

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- onyiis at 3-02-2011 02:09 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on  3-02-2011 02:01 PM
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@post, I have discovered that woman have so much to do to keep their relationships, although it should be a dual responsibility...........

But honestly, if I am not married to that man, I will let go but if I am married to him, I will see that as my 'cross' in that marriage to carry.  I have no divorce in my dictionary.  It is a taboo amongst women from my lineage (paternal and maternal lineage) and I wont break that......I have to confess that I have already conditioned my mind for anything, becos I have found out that most married men cheat on their wives, it would take a spirit-filled man and the grace of God to prevent a man from cheating.........


really nice comment  but dont u think the load of maintaining the relationship will be too heave on one person?

My dear, I dont know but it seems nature has given the woman a lot of responsibilities.  In this case making a relationship work seems to depend more on the woman than man..........Maybe it is becos it is easier for a divorced man to get married again than for a woman.......or maybe becos it is not strange for a man to have more than one wife but for a woman to be married to more than one man at once is not the norm........

Besides, men are faced with a lot of temptation out there (am not trying to make excuses for them)...........and you would notice that one of their problem in this case is their eyes.  They dont need to come close to a woman before they are tempted (by what they see), but for the women (who have problem with their ears), you need to have met them before you start discussing (start telling them all those 'sweet' lies)..........


Your insight is very perfect .......................actually i did not know what to tell her but it got me thinking ..........


I so much thank God for the man i got married to but what if i were in her shoes ..........would i have done what she did ? As women we have a very heavy responsibility to keep our marriages but u know sometimes , these responsibilities could be stressed to their limits...........this is a case of repeated infidelity

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- divineproject at 3-02-2011 02:12 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: MissyBarbie on  3-02-2011 02:06 PM
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Quote from: onyiis on  3-02-2011 01:24 PM
Quote from: divineproject on  3-02-2011 01:17 PM
@post, I have discovered that woman have so much to do to keep their relationships, although it should be a dual responsibility...........

But honestly, if I am not married to that man, I will let go but if I am married to him, I will see that as my 'cross' in that marriage to carry.  I have no divorce in my dictionary.  It is a taboo amongst women from my lineage (paternal and maternal lineage) and I wont break that......I have to confess that I have already conditioned my mind for anything, becos I have found out that most married men cheat on their wives, it would take a spirit-filled man and the grace of God to prevent a man from cheating.........


really nice comment  but dont u think the load of maintaining the relationship will be too heave on one person?

My dear, I dont know but it seems nature has given the woman a lot of responsibilities.  In this case making a relationship work seems to depend more on the woman than man..........Maybe it is becos it is easier for a divorced man to get married again than for a woman.......or maybe becos it is not strange for a man to have more than one wife but for a woman to be married to more than one man at once is not the norm........

Besides, men are faced with a lot of temptation out there (am not trying to make excuses for them)...........and you would notice that one of their problem in this case is their eyes.  They dont need to come close to a woman before they are tempted (by what they see), but for the women (who have problem with their ears), you need to have met them before you start discussing (start telling them all those 'sweet' lies)..........

hmmmmmm.

MB, wetin?................. Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked

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- onyiis at 3-02-2011 02:13 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on  3-02-2011 02:04 PM
here's no limit to how successful your relationship can become as long as you keep in mind one essential point - you can't do it alone. Without a serious and sincere commitment from each partner, relationships cannot grow and become successful. Relationships can't grow with the effort of only one partner - when that's the case, count on seeing the relationship dissolve shortly. Don't forget - it takes two to tango! Even though there are going to be issues in any relationship, the strength of its foundation will help determine if it can withstand them

Don't lie

The first essential foundation of any relationship is honesty. People in a relationship share their innermost thoughts and feelings with each other, but how can you do that if your partner lies and cannot be trusted? The things you tell her make up a tapestry that symbolizes not only your life, but your relationship together. Each lie is like a huge hole - meaning that the relationship is weak and incomplete. A relationship's future is based on the quality of the foundation that's built for it. If the foundation is made up of lies, then there's little hope for any future because the relationship will collapse the first time it's put to the test.

Relationships thrive on integrity

Someone who lies lacks integrity, but it goes deeper - integrity has to do with matching your words to your deeds as well. Thus, you show that you've got a problem with integrity when you break promises or don't live up to other commitments. Your integrity is reflected in your actions every day, and how those actions match your words. Don't think that just attending to the major commitments you make will convince people you've got integrity. If you display poor integrity in minor issues, sooner or later you're going to jeopardize the relationship because she's going to wonder if you can be trusted with something as important as her heart. The faith that's so important to a relationship doesn't just spring up - it's nurtured by your constant attention to keeping your commitments large and small. As you keep on doing this as time goes on, she will trust you more and more and the two of you will grow ever closer.


i know u can make good and reasonable comments when you really want to ................this is good  Grin Grin Grin Kiss Kiss

Posted: at 3-02-2011 02:13 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- blings_is_back at 3-02-2011 02:15 PM (13 years ago)
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peepsy abeg give me pepsi for there

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

u wan drink too?
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- onyiis at 3-02-2011 02:17 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on  3-02-2011 02:09 PM
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Few things could lead a man outside to start cheating.. and those things women see it as common, but it means allot to most Men !!

Poster>> I don't think i will do anything to save or keep an Infidelity relationship, Once i discovered about that, is all over !! The only thing could make me even look up her, is if we had children, I must do everything to be closer to my child/children often, but for her, there is no going backward!!


But u know in most countries u can have their custody as a man?

If Laws permit them to be under my custody, I will be so glad to have them and also guide them in the right way. thats all. There's no need trying to amend and keep a relationship whereby your partner will not stay up to another 3 months she/he will cheat again. such person can't stop doing that, No matter how hard one try, Instead of watching yourself get hurt, is better to quit it.


That goes back to my question ......knowing that the law will not permit you to keep the kids and you soo much want to be close to them , will it make you try to keep the relationship despite your partners infidelity ?

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- Michro at 3-02-2011 02:19 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: blings_is_back on  3-02-2011 01:58 PM
peepsy abeg give me pepsi for there

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

u wan drink too?
yes o o o o o

Posted: at 3-02-2011 02:19 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- mallorca at 3-02-2011 02:21 PM (13 years ago)
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yes na.. abi u u fit stand honeypot wey dey smell?

But honeypot get smell..................which is not offensive ...............................though some fit kill rat  Grin Grin Grin Grin

so una know sef.... and na those babes wey their own dey smell pass dey like make guys dey suck dem..... TUFIAKWA!!
Grin Grin Grin Grin

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- MissyBarbie at 3-02-2011 02:21 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: blings_is_back on  3-02-2011 02:15 PM
Quote from: MissyBarbie on  3-02-2011 02:02 PM
Quote from: blings_is_back on  3-02-2011 01:58 PM
peepsy abeg give me pepsi for there

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

u wan drink too?

Who?
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- blings_is_back at 3-02-2011 02:23 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: MissyBarbie on  3-02-2011 02:21 PM
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Quote from: MissyBarbie on  3-02-2011 02:02 PM
Quote from: blings_is_back on  3-02-2011 01:58 PM
peepsy abeg give me pepsi for there
Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
u wan drink too?
Who?

as u dey follow me up and down i come think sey u wan drink omo na
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- dirtykid at 3-02-2011 02:27 PM (13 years ago)
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Few things could lead a man outside to start cheating.. and those things women see it as common, but it means allot to most Men !!

Poster>> I don't think i will do anything to save or keep an Infidelity relationship, Once i discovered about that, is all over !! The only thing could make me even look up her, is if we had children, I must do everything to be closer to my child/children often, but for her, there is no going backward!!


But u know in most countries u can have their custody as a man?

If Laws permit them to be under my custody, I will be so glad to have them and also guide them in the right way. thats all. There's no need trying to amend and keep a relationship whereby your partner will not stay up to another 3 months she/he will cheat again. such person can't stop doing that, No matter how hard one try, Instead of watching yourself get hurt, is better to quit it.


That goes back to my question ......knowing that the law will not permit you to keep the kids and you soo much want to be close to them , will it make you try to keep the relationship despite your partners infidelity ?

I know the Law will always permit the kids to see their biological father anytime they law says so, so in that case, I will still do away with the cheat in order to save my health, My life from not getting worried all the time about what next she will do and so on, Such situation kills men slowly, Like i know some white guys that couldn't stand just one cheat from their fiancée not even married wife already, The guy ended up committing suicide, some Men can't stand it, especially when they Love that person so so much. Some will end up drinking all their life.  

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- MissyBarbie at 3-02-2011 02:29 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: blings_is_back on  3-02-2011 02:23 PM
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Quote from: blings_is_back on  3-02-2011 01:58 PM
peepsy abeg give me pepsi for there
Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
u wan drink too?
Who?

as u dey follow me up and down i come think sey u wan drink omo na

heheheheehehehe...Follow you up gini....Blings I jump and pass againg and again and again Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry
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- onyiis at 3-02-2011 02:30 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on  3-02-2011 01:59 PM
Few things could lead a man outside to start cheating.. and those things women see it as common, but it means allot to most Men !!

Poster>> I don't think i will do anything to save or keep an Infidelity relationship, Once i discovered about that, is all over !! The only thing could make me even look up her, is if we had children, I must do everything to be closer to my child/children often, but for her, there is no going backward!!


But u know in most countries u can have their custody as a man?

If Laws permit them to be under my custody, I will be so glad to have them and also guide them in the right way. thats all. There's no need trying to amend and keep a relationship whereby your partner will not stay up to another 3 months she/he will cheat again. such person can't stop doing that, No matter how hard one try, Instead of watching yourself get hurt, is better to quit it.


That goes back to my question ......knowing that the law will not permit you to keep the kids and you soo much want to be close to them , will it make you try to keep the relationship despite your partners infidelity ?

I know the Law will always permit the kids to see their biological father anytime they law says so, so in that case, I will still do away with the cheat in order to save my health, My life from not getting worried all the time about what next she will do and so on, Such situation kills men slowly, Like i know some white guys that couldn't stand just one cheat from their fiancée not even married wife already, The guy ended up committing suicide, some Men can't stand it, especially when they Love that person so so much. Some will end up drinking all their life.  


I know of a case were the kids visits both parents but each of the parents will always want to prove he/she is the best to the kids by saying all sorts of bad things abaut the other and at the end the kids ended up hating both parents

Posted: at 3-02-2011 02:30 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Pepesy at 3-02-2011 02:31 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: blings_is_back on  3-02-2011 02:15 PM
Quote from: MissyBarbie on  3-02-2011 02:02 PM
Quote from: blings_is_back on  3-02-2011 01:58 PM
peepsy abeg give me pepsi for there

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

u wan drink too?

hmmn
Posted: at 3-02-2011 02:31 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- desiresluv20 at 3-02-2011 03:23 PM (13 years ago)
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Do u think that one persons effort can really hold a relationship together ? No, for sure. but I will have to advice that understanding each other before going into it matters a lot. Don't love someone that doesn't love you. Love is blind but lovers are not blind.

Posted: at 3-02-2011 03:23 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- dirtykid at 3-02-2011 03:43 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: onyiis on  3-02-2011 02:30 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on  3-02-2011 02:27 PM
Quote from: onyiis on  3-02-2011 02:17 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on  3-02-2011 02:09 PM
Quote from: onyiis on  3-02-2011 02:01 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on  3-02-2011 01:59 PM
Few things could lead a man outside to start cheating.. and those things women see it as common, but it means allot to most Men !!

Poster>> I don't think i will do anything to save or keep an Infidelity relationship, Once i discovered about that, is all over !! The only thing could make me even look up her, is if we had children, I must do everything to be closer to my child/children often, but for her, there is no going backward!!


But u know in most countries u can have their custody as a man?

If Laws permit them to be under my custody, I will be so glad to have them and also guide them in the right way. thats all. There's no need trying to amend and keep a relationship whereby your partner will not stay up to another 3 months she/he will cheat again. such person can't stop doing that, No matter how hard one try, Instead of watching yourself get hurt, is better to quit it.


That goes back to my question ......knowing that the law will not permit you to keep the kids and you soo much want to be close to them , will it make you try to keep the relationship despite your partners infidelity ?

I know the Law will always permit the kids to see their biological father anytime they law says so, so in that case, I will still do away with the cheat in order to save my health, My life from not getting worried all the time about what next she will do and so on, Such situation kills men slowly, Like i know some white guys that couldn't stand just one cheat from their fiancée not even married wife already, The guy ended up committing suicide, some Men can't stand it, especially when they Love that person so so much. Some will end up drinking all their life.  


I know of a case were the kids visits both parents but each of the parents will always want to prove he/she is the best to the kids by saying all sorts of bad things abaut the other and at the end the kids ended up hating both parents

is possible that such parents might be doing this to gain the children's favor, But i tell you what, is not a good idea, they're both spoiling those kids, Those kids will see it, that there's no Love between their parents and some of them will side the dad and some will side the Mum, It will take time for them to start seeing the real truth if not, they will live life like children without parents.

Posted: at 3-02-2011 03:43 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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