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Ble i'll be back

Posted: at 10-05-2011 09:07 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

y do u ask questns,u already knw d answer?

Posted: at 10-05-2011 09:26 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Anyway in my own opinion i think staying wif your BF/Fiance has its own Advantages and disadvantages
The advantages is
You get to know him more
you will be rest assured that you're not making any mistake by getting married to him eventually
you'd know his weakness, his do's and dont's

The disadvantages is Sex Sex and Sex...buh you've got to use your brain in handling that part
Lack of freedom
And lack of respect for both parties

So i think its good to stay with him atleast for some weeks b4 saying I DO

Posted: at 10-05-2011 09:37 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Thank u Missy, but lemme ask u this question
what happens in d days of mamas and fathers??
Was there anything like dating and getting to know each other b4 d marriage???

I wouldnt be wrong if i say that u are in one way or the other supporting premarital sex

Posted: at 10-05-2011 10:14 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

the thing self tire me when u start living with a man doing all doing all d duties as a wife he will relax i mean since he can get it free y spending money for bride price and traditional marriage. i hv seen many young girl who end up in a man's house with kids without any pride price 

Posted: at 10-05-2011 10:25 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

one just happened recently in ma neighborhood, the lady has had two children for this man out of wedlock and one thing led to the other and the children died, now d man has sent d lady packing saying that she stole some stuff and talk back at his mother.....
So tell if d man had married d lady, will he just sent her packing just like that

My Question: It is now that he just found out she is a thief or she talks back at his mom

Posted: at 10-05-2011 10:33 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

I wasnt saying its a good thing to stay with someone you are not married to...To be sincere ive stayed with ma BF for 3weeks b4
And those 3 weeks was a living hell...And I thank God I did....atleast i have the chance of knowing d kind of monster he was
Cos i would have ended up marrying him...and that would have bn a disaster

And talking about premarital sex...that one don tey
So if you can actually be sleeping with someone you're not married to...I wonder why its soooo bad to stay with him atleast for sometimes.atleast till you're satisfy he's the one

Abi na who be virgin hia...apart from me

Posted: at 10-05-2011 10:45 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Of course you can escape the sex part....If you really want to
And sex is the least of the problem
Cos you're still gonna have sex with him anyway
What am trying to say in essence is Get to know him wella b4 making a commitment
Its better to stay with him and see if he's d one, than to be married to a monster

Anyway what works for me doesnt have to work for you oooo
Buh seriously that's what i would do.

I dey come sha

Posted: at 10-05-2011 10:54 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

From the christian perception, It is wrong 4 a man and a woman living together when both are not yet married based on the following reasons... 1, they will end up fornicating which the word of God is against. 2, this could hinder their christian life. 3, lack of moral up bringing. 4, they could end up having unwanted pregnancy when they are not yet prepared to shoulder responsibility. Note: Outside the christianity view, it has adavantages and i won't hilights on that.

Posted: at 10-05-2011 11:00 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Talking about ur bf...staying with him was out of the way...i will be last to tell u to stay wif ur bf....u could have implore other ways of getting to know him better...but that is by d way now.......

talking about premarital sex...I quite agree with u that is has been in voke for God knows ow long
But it is not good, God does not like it, It is a sin.....

premarital sex and moving in with ur bf/fiance is one thing that shouldnt be done by especially d ladies
cos u already assume d wifey role wen u are not one and so many take advantage of this and delay d marriage....

pls let us focus on opinions that will cause a change to our society......

Note: If i could turn back d hands of the clock, my virginity would have been d first thing i would claim and hold tight and if i had knew then wat I know now maybe no man would have cross me until i get married

Posted: at 10-05-2011 11:03 AM (13 years ago) | Hero