I am tireedd of my MARRIAGE!!! (Page 3)

abeg help me ask am ooo

I was touch when i read this post. I'm going to hint out some point about love and possibly give u some Godly advice that u need to apply for the restoration of your love and happiness in your married home at the end of my comment.

Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, u fell in love with your spouse. U anticipated his call, wanted his touch, and liked his idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a spontaneous experience. U didn't have to do anything, that's why it's called "falling" in love - because it's happening to u.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet. Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that u were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened to u. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love diminish. It's the natural cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive u nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if u think about your marriage, u will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when u were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, u and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as u and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love u once had, u may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

@Hopea23 said two things that i want to advice u against; Don't say u regret marrying him, don't give the devil chance to come into your marriage. Your negative proclamation about your marriage will give the devil chance to snare and hold your enemies marriage captive and not your's. Let the issues of marriage life proceed out of your mouth.

@truenaija2, now that u are going through this hard time, step up your faith and keep declaring God's word upon your marriage. U have to fight the good fight of faith by setling your marriage life upon christ. Don't get it hurt with your husband, hand over him to christ the authour and finisher of our faith.

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND
God almighty will give u knowledge, wisdom, strenght, courage, endurance, effort, zeal and detemination to succeed in your married life. Best of luck in all your endavours.

TO u my sister truenaija.l am not that much experience in this journey of marriage.but somethings l personally learn apart from the biblical aspect of it.is that anything that l know will make me unhappy l try as much as posible to ignore it.for example when l married newly l used to complain alot about my husband every litle fault l nagg over it as if l was perfect.but then l am hurt really feeling pain inside.no one to talk to that will give me good advice than don,t give him that chance to rule u.but as a beleiver l will always pick my bible read through it surely l always find comfort that l end up going to apologise to my husband weither he been wrong or l been wrong.and that give my home peace and he also feel guilty about hurting me then.that is the power of the holy spirit at work.he said peace l give unto u not as the world giveth.my dear l cannot say l know what u are going.l am not in ur shoes.but one thing is for sure in every marriage there is time for tubulance and only the strong wise and determine ones can calm the wind.this ur time now be strong be wise and be determine to break this wind of the devil of destruction that is raising it ugly head in ur home in Jesus name.and if there is physical efort too pls try and aply and be very polite about it.forget ur mistake God can to ur mistake to ur advantage in life.u see those only time u spend alone take some part and devote it to God as a quite time.and see if God will not fight for u and u hold ur peace.remain bless my sister don,t give up.