before and after marriage (Page 3)

You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character.
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust." Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character?
Here are four character traits to definitely check for:
Humility: Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than personal comfort?
Do I want to be more like this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give charity?

Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do?

Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable?
Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

Posted: at 24-02-2011 11:37 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of you?
Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. If you can't be vulnerable, then you can't be intimate. The two go hand in hand.

Posted: at 24-02-2011 11:41 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Posted: at 24-02-2011 11:43 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Okies

Posted: at 24-02-2011 11:56 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

still passing

Posted: at 24-02-2011 12:03 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

oK, I SAW uuu

Posted: at 24-02-2011 12:10 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

How far na, U don wake?

Posted: at 24-02-2011 12:39 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

When both parties are living up to the promise they made to each other, no body will change, but when one of them begin a game, he/she must be ready to dance to the tune of the music he is playing...When a ma/womann respects who for you are, treasure you and adores, when you can win the heart of a man/woman, you have it even after marriage, that person remains himself/herself. Ladies, do be too cheap for any man and guys, we are supposed to marry a WIFE not KNIFE...

Posted: at 24-02-2011 04:00 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

If ur wife change affter getting married, check ur-self first b4 u start thinking any negative things,cos we woman are dangerous dan men,we don't 4giv easyly.

Posted: at 24-02-2011 05:18 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

If ur wife change after getting married,u need 2 check ur-self first b4 u start thinking any negative things,we women are more dangerous dan men,an again we 4giv easily but we don't 4get easily.

Posted: at 24-02-2011 05:25 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie