8 years he didn't give any sign,even he knew that ou there exists a child whose father he is?
Why he popped out only now?
If I were her,I wouldn't allow him not even to see the child, needless to talk of more!  

I am sure if you were Jesus Christ, you would have been the first to throw a stone to the woman caught in adultry! Remember if you refuse outrightly whereas he left unintentionally and is truly repentant of his deeds, the blood of that child will always go after him and you may end up losing even the child to him. So answer ur own question [color=red]why he popped out only now?[/color]

Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:22 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

IF HE IS NOT READY TO MARRY HER, THEN HE SHUD FORGET THE CHILD. IT TAKE TWO TO TANGLE. THE NORMAL AFRICAN TRADITION DOES PROMOTE SURE  EXCEPT WHERE THE WOMAN DOES NOT KNOW HER RIGHT. THE MOTHER OWNS THE CHILD IN THIS CASE UNTIL PENALTY AND BRIDEPRICE IS PAID. SHE SHUD KEEP THE CHILD UNTIL WHEN HE GROW UP TO DECIDE FOR HIMSELF WHOM HE WANTS FOR A PARENT.

Suppose he is willing to marry her (she has the right to analyse if he is marritable or not) and fulfill the girl's parent's condition for the upkeep of her pregnancy and child, then I can say lady do find a heart to forgive him. Afterall, the child will grow up to know what kind of father he/she has.

THIS IS WHAT IS SPOILLING OUR SOCIETY. LET THE MAN GO TO PLACES. LET OTHER MEN WHO FIND SOLACE IN DOING THIS RELENT FROM IT. IT IS NOT HEALTH HUMILIATING A WOMAN BECOS MAN FEELS IT IS "NORMAL"FOR HIM YOU COME BACK FOR THE CHILD AFTERALL. SHE CAN KEEP THE BABY IF SHE SO WISH AND IF THE MAN ONLY CAME FOR THE CHILD.

Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:25 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

8 years he didn't give any sign,even he knew that ou there exists a child whose father he is?
Why he popped out only now?
If I were her,I wouldn't allow him not even to see the child, needless to talk of more!  

I am sure if you were Jesus Christ, you would have been the first to throw a stone to the woman caught in adultry! Remember if you refuse outrightly whereas he left unintentionally and is truly repentant of his deeds, the blood of that child will always go after him and you may end up losing even the child to him. So answer ur own question [color=red]why he popped out only now?[/color]

No!You didn't get it too right!I'm not judging anybody, never ever! So take it easy with messing Jesus' name is this!
But that man cannot be even called a father!
8 years to stay without to want to know absolutely anything about your child? What kind of man is that?
I would definitely not want such a man in our life!My kid will be better without him!That's all!

Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:28 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

[My pals…I have a case that I can’t treat alone, so I have decided to bring it here.]

My pals…I have a case that I can’t treat alone, so I have decided to bring it here.
She wrote:
Dear Madam, I was impregnated by a professor 8 years ago.
I dropped out from school after three (3) months of the pregnancy bcos i loss concentration; irrespective for the fact that i was the best in my department.
He has not supported in anywhere for the upkeep of the child ...but just 2days ago he came with his family for the child and compromise.
What should i do...i count on your advice.
Thank you.
Angela

To be honest with you, Every child needs a father and mother, No matter what, if the man has come back to his senses to amend his past mistake, give him a chance and still watch him very carefully to know exactly if he's really a change man.

I wish you can tell us well about all, what happened in the past, maybe there's a way both of you had mis-understanding when you was pregnant and so on, it does happen always in relationship especially when both of you are not married and there's a baby on the way.
Maybe you just pick up your own side of story and tell us so we can all condemn the man.  atimes we human see things in different ways. I hope you get what i mean here... i believe there's something behind the scene of this story, No man with his senses will abandon the mother and child like that, not to talk of a man with great quality ( A PROFESSOR ).

Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:29 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

dat prof is stupid but it wont hurt too bad to see wat he's up to.........but dont let him have the baby!

Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:35 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

[My pals…I have a case that I can’t treat alone, so I have decided to bring it here.]

My pals…I have a case that I can’t treat alone, so I have decided to bring it here.
She wrote:
Dear Madam, I was impregnated by a professor 8 years ago.
I dropped out from school after three (3) months of the pregnancy bcos i loss concentration; irrespective for the fact that i was the best in my department.
He has not supported in anywhere for the upkeep of the child ...but just 2days ago he came with his family for the child and compromise.
What should i do...i count on your advice.
Thank you.
Angela

He needs some lashes to get back on track

Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:40 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

@Bittersweet, I am not messing Jesus's name. Only trying to use his name to potray his forgiving nature and this case to my humble opinion needs answering so many questions (why did he go away, where & what has he been doing all this while,what makes him come back, how serious is he this time etc) to determine if Angela should accept her prof back and give her child the missing biological fatherly love or not.
Pls didn't mean to offend anyone. We are all trying to help out for if she was decided never to give away herself and/or baby, she wouldn't have brought it here. Lets help her see light from both angles.

Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:54 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

@Bittersweet, I am not messing Jesus's name. Only trying to use his name to potray his forgiving nature and this case to my humble opinion needs answering so many questions (why did he go away, where & what has he been doing all this while,what makes him come back, how serious is he this time etc) to determine if Angela should accept her prof back and give her child the missing biological fatherly love or not.
Pls didn't mean to offend anyone. We are all trying to help out for if she was decided never to give away herself and/or baby, she wouldn't have brought it here. Lets help her see light from both angles.

okkk
I just told mine,and u told yours!
No wahala!

Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:59 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

@Bittersweet, I am not messing Jesus's name. Only trying to use his name to potray his forgiving nature and this case to my humble opinion needs answering so many questions (why did he go away, where & what has he been doing all this while,what makes him come back, how serious is he this time etc) to determine if Angela should accept her prof back and give her child the missing biological fatherly love or not.
Pls didn't mean to offend anyone. We are all trying to help out for if she was decided never to give away herself and/or baby, she wouldn't have brought it here. Lets help her see light from both angles.

okkk
I just told mine,and u told yours!
No wahala!

Thank you very much and God bless everyone 4 this forum!

Posted: at 21-10-2010 01:13 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

[My pals…I have a case that I can’t treat alone, so I have decided to bring it here.]

My pals…I have a case that I can’t treat alone, so I have decided to bring it here.
She wrote:
Dear Madam, I was impregnated by a professor 8 years ago.
I dropped out from school after three (3) months of the pregnancy bcos i loss concentration; irrespective for the fact that i was the best in my department.
He has not supported in anywhere for the upkeep of the child ...but just 2days ago he came with his family for the child and compromise.
What should i do...i count on your advice.
Thank you.
Angela

He Came for d Child??

Damn!! What a F**kin Wicked Man

She Should do all She Can to not Allow him take The Child

He Should Support Financially if he Cares about the Child

l'm Sure he can't Bear Children or Can't Bear more. Dat's Why he's here

Posted: at 21-10-2010 01:18 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Was she really dating the man then or was it just a one night stand case that resulted in a child ?

Posted: at 21-10-2010 01:20 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

nollwood stuffs

Posted: at 21-10-2010 01:21 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Very important question 4rm Onyii  .... because if they're dating, there must be stories behind this flash news or abandoning . I hope the poster will make it clear to us.

Posted: at 21-10-2010 01:23 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

@Bittersweet, I am not messing Jesus's name. Only trying to use his name to potray his forgiving nature and this case to my humble opinion needs answering so many questions (why did he go away, where & what has he been doing all this while,what makes him come back, how serious is he this time etc) to determine if Angela should accept her prof back and give her child the missing biological fatherly love or not.
Pls didn't mean to offend anyone. We are all trying to help out for if she was decided never to give away herself and/or baby, she wouldn't have brought it here. Lets help her see light from both angles.

okkk
I just told mine,and u told yours!
No wahala!

Thank you very much and God bless everyone 4 this forum!

Amen!

Posted: at 21-10-2010 01:35 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

Was she really dating the man then or was it just a one night stand case that resulted in a child ?

What do yu Expect?

In Nigeria, do yu think a Professor (who must Definitely be Over 50) will Date a University Girl?

It was Definitely One of those "Sleep with Him to get Grades" Situations

Posted: at 21-10-2010 01:54 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

I can't thank you enough for all your positive responses - be bless

Posted: at 21-10-2010 04:56 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

8 years he didn't give any sign,even he knew that ou there exists a child whose father he is?
Why he popped out only now?
If I were her,I wouldn't allow him not even to see the child, needless to talk of more!  

Bs i can't support u today

ppl have to learn to put their hate and anger away and focus on their children..that kid needs to know his father..at the end of the day the kid will decide if  the father should be apart of his life or not

Posted: at 21-10-2010 05:24 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

8 years he didn't give any sign,even he knew that ou there exists a child whose father he is?
Why he popped out only now?
If I were her,I wouldn't allow him not even to see the child, needless to talk of more!  

Bs i can't support u today

ppl have to learn to put their hate and anger away and focus on their children..that kid needs to know his father..at the end of the day the kid will decide if  the father should be apart of his life or not

After 8 years of total silence?
No way!
He's not a good father! A good father couldn't stay so long time without being in touch with his child!
For me he would be good as dead!

Posted: at 21-10-2010 05:27 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

8 years he didn't give any sign,even he knew that ou there exists a child whose father he is?
Why he popped out only now?
If I were her,I wouldn't allow him not even to see the child, needless to talk of more!  

Bs i can't support u today

ppl have to learn to put their hate and anger away and focus on their children..that kid needs to know his father..at the end of the day the kid will decide if  the father should be apart of his life or not

After 8 years of total silence?
No way!
He's not a good father! A good father couldn't stay so long time without being in touch with his child!
For me he would be good as dead!

well said

Posted: at 21-10-2010 05:31 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

we understand  yeah ...but kids won't
all they gonna say is they need their dad..no matter what u tell them
if the father wants nothing to do with the child , the child will know and will retreat by himself
the thing is some kids end up hating the 1 who was always their for them just for that singular act of refusing the father seeing the child

Posted: at 21-10-2010 05:31 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

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