My pals…I have a case that I can’t treat alone, so I have decided to bring it here. She wrote: Dear Madam, I was impregnated by a professor 8 years ago. I dropped out from school after three (3) months of the pregnancy bcos i loss concentration; irrespective for the fact that i was the best in my department. He has not supported in anywhere for the upkeep of the child ...but just 2days ago he came with his family for the child and compromise. What should i do...i count on your advice. Thank you. Angela
Posted: at 21-10-2010 10:45 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
qunodinga at 21-10-2010 10:47 AM (14 years ago) (f)
huh!
where should i start from?
Posted: at 21-10-2010 10:47 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
IF HE IS NOT READY TO MARRY HER, THEN HE SHUD FORGET THE CHILD. IT TAKE TWO TO TANGLE. THE NORMAL AFRICAN TRADITION DOES PROMOTE SURE EXCEPT WHERE THE WOMAN DOES NOT KNOW HER RIGHT. THE MOTHER OWNS THE CHILD IN THIS CASE UNTIL PENALTY AND BRIDEPRICE IS PAID. SHE SHUD KEEP THE CHILD UNTIL WHEN HE GROW UP TO DECIDE FOR HIMSELF WHOM HE WANTS FOR A PARENT.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 10:56 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
PERMIT ME TO SAY THIS.. IT IS 100% FACT THAT MEN CHILDREN BUT NOT RESPONSIBILITY. LET THE PROF GO AND DO THE RIGHT THING THAT TEACHES HIS STUDENTS IF THERE IS ANY.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 11:11 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Emmandazie at 21-10-2010 11:14 AM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Inemx on 21-10-2010 10:56 AM
IF HE IS NOT READY TO MARRY HER, THEN HE SHUD FORGET THE CHILD. IT TAKE TWO TO TANGLE. THE NORMAL AFRICAN TRADITION DOES PROMOTE SURE EXCEPT WHERE THE WOMAN DOES NOT KNOW HER RIGHT. THE MOTHER OWNS THE CHILD IN THIS CASE UNTIL PENALTY AND BRIDEPRICE IS PAID. SHE SHUD KEEP THE CHILD UNTIL WHEN HE GROW UP TO DECIDE FOR HIMSELF WHOM HE WANTS FOR A PARENT.
Suppose he is willing to marry her (she has the right to analyse if he is marritable or not) and fulfill the girl's parent's condition for the upkeep of her pregnancy and child, then I can say lady do find a heart to forgive him. Afterall, the child will grow up to know what kind of father he/she has.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 11:14 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
PERMIT ME TO SAY THIS.. IT IS 100% FACT THAT MEN WANT CHILDREN BUT NOT RESPONSIBILITY. LET THE PROF GO AND DO THE RIGHT THING THAT HE TEACHES HIS STUDENTS IF THERE IS ANY.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 11:16 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
She should find out the reason behind the "comeback"
Did he Love her ?
Did he have other children or no ?
If he has other kids , what are their sexes and the sex of her own child ?
etc
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 21-10-2010 11:17 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
IF HE IS NOT READY TO MARRY HER, THEN HE SHUD FORGET THE CHILD. IT TAKE TWO TO TANGLE. THE NORMAL AFRICAN TRADITION DOES PROMOTE SURE EXCEPT WHERE THE WOMAN DOES NOT KNOW HER RIGHT. THE MOTHER OWNS THE CHILD IN THIS CASE UNTIL PENALTY AND BRIDEPRICE IS PAID. SHE SHUD KEEP THE CHILD UNTIL WHEN HE GROW UP TO DECIDE FOR HIMSELF WHOM HE WANTS FOR A PARENT.
Suppose he is willing to marry her (she has the right to analyse if he is marritable or not) and fulfill the girl's parent's condition for the upkeep of her pregnancy and child, then I can say lady do find a heart to forgive him. Afterall, the child will grow up to know what kind of father he/she has.
THIS IS WHAT IS SPOILLING OUR SOCIETY. LET THE MAN GO TO PLACES. LET OTHER MEN WHO FIND SOLACE IN DOING THIS RELENT FROM IT. IT IS NOT HEALTH HUMILIATING A WOMAN BECOS MEN FEEL IT IS "NORMAL" FOR YOU COME BACK FOR THE CHILD AFTERALL. SHE CAN KEEP THE BABY IF SHE SO WISH AND IF THE MAN ONLY CAME FOR THE CHILD.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 11:24 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
sexy_error at 21-10-2010 11:25 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Angela,
Just find a place in your heart to forgive him. For the child, when he/she grow he will decide for his/herself. If he showed for marriage, plz dont give him the opportunity..'you can't eat your cake and gave it'
but, is too much of reading turns someone insane?
Posted: at 21-10-2010 11:25 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
My pals…I have a case that I can’t treat alone, so I have decided to bring it here. She wrote: Dear Madam, I was impregnated by a professor 8 years ago. I dropped out from school after three (3) months of the pregnancy bcos i loss concentration; irrespective for the fact that i was the best in my department. He has not supported in anywhere for the upkeep of the child ...but just 2days ago he came with his family for the child and compromise. What should i do...i count on your advice. Thank you. Angela
well she was moaning that the guy didn't contribute his own share of the upkeep, now he has arrived, so why not you both work together to put the past aside.
2.0.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 11:45 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Emmandazie at 21-10-2010 12:03 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Inemx on 21-10-2010 11:24 AM
Quote from: Emmandazie on 21-10-2010 11:14 AM
Quote from: Inemx on 21-10-2010 10:56 AM
IF HE IS NOT READY TO MARRY HER, THEN HE SHUD FORGET THE CHILD. IT TAKE TWO TO TANGLE. THE NORMAL AFRICAN TRADITION DOES PROMOTE SURE EXCEPT WHERE THE WOMAN DOES NOT KNOW HER RIGHT. THE MOTHER OWNS THE CHILD IN THIS CASE UNTIL PENALTY AND BRIDEPRICE IS PAID. SHE SHUD KEEP THE CHILD UNTIL WHEN HE GROW UP TO DECIDE FOR HIMSELF WHOM HE WANTS FOR A PARENT.
Suppose he is willing to marry her (she has the right to analyse if he is marritable or not) and fulfill the girl's parent's condition for the upkeep of her pregnancy and child, then I can say lady do find a heart to forgive him. Afterall, the child will grow up to know what kind of father he/she has.
THIS IS WHAT IS SPOILLING OUR SOCIETY. LET THE MAN GO TO PLACES. LET OTHER MEN WHO FIND SOLACE IN DOING THIS RELENT FROM IT. IT IS NOT HEALTH HUMILIATING A WOMAN BECOS MEN FEEL IT IS "NORMAL" FOR YOU COME BACK FOR THE CHILD AFTERALL. SHE CAN KEEP THE BABY IF SHE SO WISH AND IF THE MAN ONLY CAME FOR THE CHILD.
I don't condon with me who dump gals especially when a child has united ur blood. However, what I mean is the girl has to analyse if he has other children, what made him go & come back, got other women etc. Then a man who is remorseful for his act will agree to shoulder' what ever penalties the girl's family will set forth. Permit me say I know of a similar situation in which the family spelt out very exhorbitant fines only as a test to the man's honesty and when they saw that he heartily accepted to the conditions and started fulfilling them, they reduced it. Today, they are making a happy home and their child is well cared for both by the father and mother.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:03 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
solojaro at 21-10-2010 12:08 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Emmandazie on 21-10-2010 11:14 AM
Quote from: Inemx on 21-10-2010 10:56 AM
IF HE IS NOT READY TO MARRY HER, THEN HE SHUD FORGET THE CHILD. IT TAKE TWO TO TANGLE. THE NORMAL AFRICAN TRADITION DOES PROMOTE SURE EXCEPT WHERE THE WOMAN DOES NOT KNOW HER RIGHT. THE MOTHER OWNS THE CHILD IN THIS CASE UNTIL PENALTY AND BRIDEPRICE IS PAID. SHE SHUD KEEP THE CHILD UNTIL WHEN HE GROW UP TO DECIDE FOR HIMSELF WHOM HE WANTS FOR A PARENT.
Suppose he is willing to marry her (she has the right to analyse if he is marritable or not) and fulfill the girl's parent's condition for the upkeep of her pregnancy and child, then I can say lady do find a heart to forgive him. Afterall, the child will grow up to know what kind of father he/she has.
That is if he agree to mary her and send her back to school.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:08 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
bittersweet at 21-10-2010 12:10 PM (14 years ago) (f)
8 years he didn't give any sign,even he knew that ou there exists a child whose father he is? Why he popped out only now? If I were her,I wouldn't allow him not even to see the child, needless to talk of more!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:10 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
Emmandazie at 21-10-2010 12:13 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: solojaro on 21-10-2010 12:08 PM
Quote from: Emmandazie on 21-10-2010 11:14 AM
Quote from: Inemx on 21-10-2010 10:56 AM
IF HE IS NOT READY TO MARRY HER, THEN HE SHUD FORGET THE CHILD. IT TAKE TWO TO TANGLE. THE NORMAL AFRICAN TRADITION DOES PROMOTE SURE EXCEPT WHERE THE WOMAN DOES NOT KNOW HER RIGHT. THE MOTHER OWNS THE CHILD IN THIS CASE UNTIL PENALTY AND BRIDEPRICE IS PAID. SHE SHUD KEEP THE CHILD UNTIL WHEN HE GROW UP TO DECIDE FOR HIMSELF WHOM HE WANTS FOR A PARENT.
Suppose he is willing to marry her (she has the right to analyse if he is marritable or not) and fulfill the girl's parent's condition for the upkeep of her pregnancy and child, then I can say lady do find a heart to forgive him. Afterall, the child will grow up to know what kind of father he/she has.
That is if he agree to mary her and send her back to school.
Ofcourse as that, besides other considerations will form package deal for reconciliation.
Posted: at 21-10-2010 12:13 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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