Are You Being Used, or Are You The User? Dating Someone For Their Connections

Date: 17-05-2012 4:22 pm (11 years ago) | Author: aadex kebella
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- at 17-05-2012 04:22 PM (11 years ago)
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Are you benefiting from your partner, or is your partner benefiting from you in the wrong ways? Here are three problems with that type of relationship:

1. It leaves room for speculation and criticism
None of us like to be criticized for our relationship status or the reasons behind it, but a relationship based on convenience will always be questioned, whether the intentions are pure or not. And as if your parents or friends needed another reason to be nosy about your relationships.

2. What’s really keeping that person around?
While you would probably like to think that your man is with you because you’re just that amazing, if you’re being used, once what he’s trying to get from you is gone or withheld (money, contacts, sex, etc), you’re going to be left faster than a bad hairdresser who doesn’t understand the definition of a “trim” (the opposite of a big chop). Being used like that and allowing it to happen in the hopes that something real will form can bring on more heartbreak than is necessary.

3. What type of statement are you making about yourself?
And if you are the user in this relationship, how are you representing yourself, taking part in a relationship that doesn’t seem meaningful? It could come across as saying that you are only the type of person who dates for status, money, convenience, etc. I’m not saying that you’re a gold-digger, but…you kind of are.


Posted: at 17-05-2012 04:22 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- BendelArmedRobb at 18-05-2012 11:52 AM (11 years ago)
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una too much!!!coffee wey I dey drink for hia comot for my nose as I read this.
Posted: at 18-05-2012 11:52 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- verah at 18-05-2012 11:56 AM (11 years ago)
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NICE POST   Wink Wink Wink

Posted: at 18-05-2012 11:56 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- globala at 18-05-2012 12:11 PM (11 years ago)
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stop drinking coffee/ and if this is a nice post in one hand, meaning that in the other hand it will be a nice pole!

Posted: at 18-05-2012 12:11 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Bettygirls at 18-05-2012 12:14 PM (11 years ago)
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 i need to take a nap
Posted: at 18-05-2012 12:14 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- 50scent at 18-05-2012 12:27 PM (11 years ago)
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 Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy

Posted: at 18-05-2012 12:27 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Sophyrocks at 18-05-2012 12:58 PM (11 years ago)
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Dis is 9ice.

Posted: at 18-05-2012 12:58 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- FlyMamacita at 18-05-2012 01:02 PM (11 years ago)
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Kool  Cool
Posted: at 18-05-2012 01:02 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Sophyrocks at 18-05-2012 01:18 PM (11 years ago)
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We all learn evriday.

Posted: at 18-05-2012 01:18 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- mizcollins1 at 18-05-2012 01:25 PM (11 years ago)
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nice1 babe
Posted: at 18-05-2012 01:25 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- 50scent at 18-05-2012 01:31 PM (11 years ago)
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 Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss

Posted: at 18-05-2012 01:31 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- jumie88 at 18-05-2012 02:12 PM (11 years ago)
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 Cool Cool Cool Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss

Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:12 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- 50scent at 18-05-2012 02:16 PM (11 years ago)
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 Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Jumie

Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:16 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Akpan01 at 18-05-2012 02:19 PM (11 years ago)
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No be today these things r exist....go check downtown..all the students girls dem try survive catch a rich chif who go sponsor dem..nothin bad there till both side know whats up...waitin u go do now if situation bad??woman and man dem use what God gives dem...if u got the opportunity to use am...use it well o

Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:19 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- Akpan01 at 18-05-2012 02:20 PM (11 years ago)
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i dey need some sugar daddies let it be like 5-6-7 let them arrange my expensies Grin Grin Grin

Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:20 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- Akpan01 at 18-05-2012 02:21 PM (11 years ago)
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if u over think about relationship u go kolo...let am flow with the feelings over thinking spoil things..u go imagine things which r no even exist

Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:21 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 18-05-2012 02:27 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: Akpan01 on 18-05-2012 02:20 PM
i dey need some sugar daddies let it be like 5-6-7 let them arrange my expensies Grin Grin Grin

Grin Grin Lady Akpan,, welcom ooo
Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:27 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 18-05-2012 02:27 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: Akpan01 on 18-05-2012 02:21 PM
if u over think about relationship u go kolo...let am flow with the feelings over thinking spoil things..u go imagine things which r no even exist

True talk for real
Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:27 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Idbabe at 18-05-2012 02:27 PM (11 years ago)
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50cent - Minister for women affairs, how come u post this kind nice post.  Abi no news on women again?
Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:27 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- 50scent at 18-05-2012 02:50 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: Idbabe on 18-05-2012 02:27 PM
50cent - Minister for women affairs, how come u post this kind nice post.  Abi no news on women again?

Idbabe, u always look seductive baby  Kiss

Posted: at 18-05-2012 02:50 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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