Should I give my child up for Adoption?- [Life story]

Date: 29-06-2012 5:05 pm (12 years ago) | Author: aadex kebella
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- at 29-06-2012 05:05 PM (12 years ago)
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My parents are Nigerians and I am a Nigerian by nationality. However, I was born and grew up in the United States. I am presently in Australia though, because I school here. I have a very big problem and I need advice, but I will try to make is as short as possible.
 
I have a boyfriend and we have been together since my high school. I am a christian and I don't believe in premarital sex. Also my parents are pastors. I had kept to this rule for the 20 years of my life. Unfortunately, sometime earlier this year, some unforeseen things happened and my boyfriend and I slept together.
 
My parents always use me as an example to our family friends and they always talk about how they are so proud of the fact that I am keeping myself for marriage. Anyways, the unfortunate thing wasn't just that we had sex, but I also got pregnant. Abortion is not an option for me because I am strongly against it, but my friend here has a suggestion for me. She says I should keep the baby, give birth to it and take it to an orphanage home here in Australia before I go back home.
 
This sounds like a perfect plan because I don't plan on going home anytime soon. So by the time I go home, nobody will know what happened. Do you think I should do what she advises and go back home pretending like nothing happened? Or should I tell my parents and carry the baby back home? Facing the embarrassment, ridicule and scorn from family friends, church members and people who look up to my parents?
 
On the other hand, my boyfriend thinks I should keep the baby but that whatever happens, I shouldn't say he is responsible. Please advise me because I am seriously considering dropping the baby in the orphanage.[/size][/font][/color]


Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:05 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- Treasure2 at 29-06-2012 05:11 PM (12 years ago)
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Why drop the baby, go with your baby. Do you knw if you will hv another baby??? Pls and pls, that baby should not loose your sight.
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:11 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- mizcollins1 at 29-06-2012 05:13 PM (12 years ago)
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if your parents are christains as you say then what is making you so scared in taking your baby back home?....yes they will be disappointed but then life goes on,shit happens!!!...it's not like you're under aged and not capable of caring for your child!!...i advice you call your parents and tell them what has happened...as of your bf he is a punk ass mother phyuker! and not man enough!!
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:13 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- 50scent at 29-06-2012 05:15 PM (12 years ago)
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 Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes

Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:15 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 29-06-2012 05:20 PM (12 years ago)
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Lots of people Are going from one prophet to the other, one church to the other.. one prayer house to the other, one state to the other to meet N.Doctor..Now God has given you a child.. Do not focus on your past.. Take your child with you, lest you loose that child when you drop him/her in an orphanage home..Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure(ur child is Your Gift) Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards... please Keep Your Child with you  Cool

Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:20 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 29-06-2012 05:22 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: mizcollins1 on 29-06-2012 05:13 PM
if your parents are christains as you say then what is making you so scared in taking your baby back home?....yes they will be disappointed but then life goes on,shit happens!!!...it's not like you're under aged and not capable of caring for your child!!...i advice you call your parents and tell them what has happened...as of your bf he is a punk ass mother fcuker! and not man enough!!

Exactly

Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:22 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- mizcollins1 at 29-06-2012 05:24 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 29-06-2012 05:20 PM
Lots of people Are going from one prophet to the other, one church to the other.. one prayer house to the other, one state to the other to meet N.Doctor..Now God has given you a child.. Do not focus on your past.. Take your child with you, lest you loose that child when you drop him/her in an orphanage home..Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure(ur child is Your Gift) Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards... please Keep Your Child with you  Cool
gbam!!!!
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:24 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 29-06-2012 05:28 PM (12 years ago)
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 Kiss Kiss Kiss

Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:28 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- 50scent at 29-06-2012 05:31 PM (12 years ago)
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 Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss

Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:31 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- mizcollins1 at 29-06-2012 05:52 PM (12 years ago)
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 Angry Angry was she kissin you Huh? Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:52 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- 50scent at 29-06-2012 05:58 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: mizcollins1 on 29-06-2012 05:52 PM
Angry Angry was she kissin you Huh? Roll Eyes Roll Eyes

I was going for you, before she ambush my lips  Sad

Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:58 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- bittersweet at 29-06-2012 06:22 PM (12 years ago)
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Abandoning her child ?How could she live with such a burden after that?
Woman,take responsibility for your own actions !

Posted: at 29-06-2012 06:22 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- osituga at 29-06-2012 06:23 PM (12 years ago)
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another Balotelli is Born
Posted: at 29-06-2012 06:23 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Treasure2 at 29-06-2012 06:23 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 29-06-2012 06:22 PM
Abandoning her child ?How could she live with such a burden after that?
Woman,take responsibility for your own actions !

Seconded.
Posted: at 29-06-2012 06:23 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- jossy4reall at 29-06-2012 08:47 PM (12 years ago)
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U have already gotten all the best of advises u nid regarding dis issue.........starting 4rm T2 pass 2 Mizcollins den 2 Sophie & anoda d final pass 2 BS......I dont have 2 get d pass or pass it again as too many cooks can spoil d broth..,I support dem all...........now d goal is scored and 50 kobo has 2 carry d cup & give 2 d owner....case closed

Posted: at 29-06-2012 08:47 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- anata at 30-06-2012 09:26 AM (12 years ago)
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Lots of people Are going from one prophet to the other, one church to the other.. one prayer house to the other, one state to the other to meet N.Doctor..Now God has given you a child.. Do not focus on your past.. Take your child with you, lest you loose that child when you drop him/her in an orphanage home..Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure(ur child is Your Gift) Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward pls keep ur child for a lesson pls lovely friend keep it for me
Posted: at 30-06-2012 09:26 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- Treasure2 at 30-06-2012 09:35 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: anata on 30-06-2012 09:26 AM
Lots of people Are going from one prophet to the other, one church to the other.. one prayer house to the other, one state to the other to meet N.Doctor..Now God has given you a child.. Do not focus on your past.. Take your child with you, lest you loose that child when you drop him/her in an orphanage home..Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure(ur child is Your Gift) Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward pls keep ur child for a lesson pls lovely friend keep it for me
Nicely said.
Posted: at 30-06-2012 09:35 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- 50scent at 30-06-2012 12:16 PM (12 years ago)
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 Cool

Posted: at 30-06-2012 12:16 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- chicco77 at 3-07-2012 10:02 PM (12 years ago)
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 Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked
Posted: at 3-07-2012 10:02 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- kebella at 4-07-2012 09:59 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: osituga on 29-06-2012 06:23 PM
another Balotelli is Born
Cheesy Cheesy

Posted: at 4-07-2012 09:59 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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