Lola Omotayo's Sends Out Message To Her and Peter's Haters ! (Page 3)

When has it become our  culture (African/Nigerian) for a wife to take up the responsibility for the men in the family? This culture is  generally common to all Nigerian tribes.  I don't think that this valuable culture is different from the Yoruba culture. Even if the Yoruba share different cultural idea concerning the African extended family responsibility, I know too well that it is common to the Igbo for the men to handle family matters and issues and not the wives let alone the women to summon elders or family members either to detest, castigate, correct and/or enforce with measure any wrong-doings/goings in the Igbo cultural family setting. The women in this forum, please don't misunderstand me in this context.

Lola is a woman and comes from the Yoruba tribe of Nigeria. She was only married into an Igbo culture. This confers on her to share in a wider sense the Yoruba/Igbo cultural values. Since when has this singular and noble Igbo culture changed to see Lola take charge of family responsibility in the Okoye family- 'the Squares' (the squares of Peter and Paul and their wives or the squares of Jude and his wife)?  Why do we, after we see the mouth, we still ask the useless question:  'where do we feed for a meal? Since when has Lola become the head of the entire Okoye family? Being elderly does not confer on her the Igbo rights of a senior wife of the Okoye family. Better still, is she charged to sit for the seat of the elder in the Okoye family? I still know little of the Igbo culture- the wife of the most senior in the family is usually considered a senior wife whether she is young or elderly. This office does not also entail that Lola deputizes the office of the men in the Igbo cultural family setting even if we confer on her, this office in virtue of her age.

We know the truth about this valued culture across the Africa and the country in particular. I wonder why we lay hips of blames on Lola Peter Okoye. The comments I read every time on Naijapals about her seems discriminating. It is 'un-african' to do so . It is unethical to hold such opinion and is morally wrong to think along that line. Why then do we hate to this African lady/woman? As I said above, I have been reading some write-ups on the Okoye family and the wished role we want Lola to play. I state categorically here that it is not solely her responsibility to do so. It is Jude Okoye-the eldest of the "Squares". Lola Okoye as a wife to her husband can only suggest, contribute, urge and/or influence her husband's decision to unite or make-up with his brothers who happen to be her brother-in-laws. But What if she does urge her husband and he pays deaf ears? Will she kill her husband? Will she come up to the public to wash her family's dirty linens or asks for the public to exonerate her? As a good wife that I think she is, she must defend her husband and family at any time in the face of unwanted and useless criticisms which we all would expect our wives to do in our own family situations.

But for the records, "No Human Being is  a Divine. Lola is not neither was her mother-in-law and as such, ought not to look into the metaphysical realm or into the supernatural world. She was not a witch if I may say. So her insistence for Peter not to marry his soul-mate was only and merely her personal opinion and thus was only a subjective thinking, Period!!! My candid advice to us all is: Let Lola and her family be. We and/or our wives are not better off. We should remove the big log in our eyes before we attempt to help our neighbors remove theirs. Most of our comments here are not educative. They are not corrective. They are not in the affirmative etc. Think thrice!!!-about yourself, about your family and about the general public.

Posted: at 22-07-2014 05:41 PM (9 years ago) | Newbie

@ Bidemi26.How can Lola be when she comes out to show herself by posting nonsense here.is ur wife not at home minding her business ?so she gets what she wanted by people blasting her the way she wants.

Posted: at 23-07-2014 10:34 AM (9 years ago) | Upcoming