Money is a factor for many ladies these days. Read her story below: I am a woman who has waited long for the right man. I have found him and we are getting married in February My dream wedding has been planned since I was 20 and now I can transform all those imaginary plans into reality. There is only one hitch, I am way more successful financially than my fiancee. He is doing well for himself-averagely- but I am rich. I know he can’t afford some things that I would like to do for the wedding like invite some of my favourite artists to perform, buy a designer wedding dress and give everyone generally a good time. I am a very low key person and only popular in my industry where I work so I’m not flamboyant in anyway. But this is my wedding, I feel like I’ll look back and regret it knowing I could afford to do these things but didn’t. I love my boo, we are best friends and he is the love of my life. But... His ego will not allow me pay for these extra things. I know if I insist and beg and cajole he will allow me go ahead and do whatever I want to do but is it worth it? What if he doesn’t feel comfortable on the wedding day? what if this becomes a big problem in future. I am thinking of both of us in this case and I’m afraid I cannot come to a conclusion in my mind. Forget asking my friends, they are so 2014 they think I should pay for what I want if he can’t afford it. I want my fairy tale wedding, I also do not want to bruise my fiancee's ego in the process. I need a middle ground, please help!
Samogs2003 at 7-08-2014 11:22 AM (10 years ago) (m)
My dear,wedding is 4 a day while marriage is 4ever.Are u thinking of a day or abt ur future. Inform u guy,if he agree better bt,if he didn't .u dnt hv option or less u wnt 2 sacrifice day 4 future.
Posted: at 7-08-2014 11:22 AM (10 years ago) | Newbie
Loveday759 at 7-08-2014 04:13 PM (10 years ago) (m)
Girls with extravagant life, Give the money to your Guy and plan it with him if he agreed fine if not forget about luxury marriage u are dreaming of and face the reality of life.
Posted: at 7-08-2014 04:13 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
You could talk to him about it and listed to what he has to say. Also be careful to watch his body language as he talks abut it. You could also be subtle and smart. Try lending him some money to get those things for you. That way he holds his ego and you get your dream wedding. About paying back............don't bother asking him after the wedding.
Posted: at 7-08-2014 04:31 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
beejaybabs at 7-08-2014 04:50 PM (10 years ago) (m)
I'm not expert on this but I think u shuld talk to him without any form "cajoling". If he will feel uncomfortable abt it, u shuld just forget ur fairytale wedding. Personally, I can't bear a woman playing my role as a man.
"Big or small, there's a difference only you can make."
Posted: at 7-08-2014 04:50 PM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac