one of my girl friend like one african from negerian . they have stayed together for five month . they are happy to each other. but when she go back her hometown during spring fetival , her family disagree very much , her parents shouted and blame her :" how can u find a foreign boyfriend ? u can make friends with them ,but cannot regard them as ur future husband ?. it's hard for us to accept him ,u must stop ur interaction with him ......." she is very upset ,and always think how to make her partents accept her african boyfriend . but who knows , the worse is the boss she work for is also very surprised and persuade her to give up ,said " is there something wrong with mind , are u crazy ? " after her friends and collegues knowing that they never comunicate with the girl like before and always discuss something back of her , it seems that she is a crime who had done something very bad , seems that she should be ashame and feel guilty for herself . she don't know what happend , why everthing change . she told me she cannot breath even , there is no space for her to stay relaxly except for the god's house . ask me what should she do . i said :" maybe u can get some help from the chinese women who have married african , maybe they can give u some advice ." after interviewed many chinese woman , she said most of them suggest that it's far more better not to choose a african husband . one of the woman said :" u must be very brave to bear the public voice , and also should get used to the way of african's lifestyle , in negerian , women doesn't enjoy the same right as men . women stay in a lower position than men . some african husband like to have sex with others , can u accept that ? they are machismo . once u decide to marry an african , u must be prepared to meet the harsh chanllenge .some african marry chinese just for business,sex,visa and so forth . u must be very careful. of course ,not all african will be so bad , there are very good ones . but the chance to enjoy a successful marriage is very low . u don't need to take that rist ......" i don't understand , love is no boundary , why is there someone always talking something wants them to break up ?each one have the right to choose the live they want , each one must find their own detiny . hope she can find her own one and make the right decision ! i even don't know how to help her , now she is very upset , every day just thinking , her weight is loosing heavily . as her best friend ,i really want to do something for her , so ladies and gentlemen , is it really a risk to choose an african ? is it really more better to choose a chinese husband for her ? hopefully u guys can tell us the truth and give some advice ! thanks in advance !
Posted: at 13-04-2010 08:50 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
I think it depends on d family....I got a cousin married 2a chinese lady for more dan 5yrs now,dey live in Beijin,n dey r happy together.His family,n hers did not object d union in anyway.I think exposure playz a big role here as well....
Posted: at 13-04-2010 10:16 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
myragonza at 13-04-2010 10:19 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: shaphy on 13-04-2010 08:50 AM
one of my girl friend like one african from negerian . they have stayed together for five month . they are happy to each other. but when she go back her hometown during spring fetival , her family disagree very much , her parents shouted and blame her :" how can u find a foreign boyfriend ? u can make friends with them ,but cannot regard them as ur future husband ?. it's hard for us to accept him ,u must stop ur interaction with him ......." she is very upset ,and always think how to make her partents accept her african boyfriend . but who knows , the worse is the boss she work for is also very surprised and persuade her to give up ,said " is there something wrong with mind , are u crazy ? " after her friends and collegues knowing that they never comunicate with the girl like before and always discuss something back of her , it seems that she is a crime who had done something very bad , seems that she should be ashame and feel guilty for herself . she don't know what happend , why everthing change . she told me she cannot breath even , there is no space for her to stay relaxly except for the god's house . ask me what should she do . i said :" maybe u can get some help from the chinese women who have married african , maybe they can give u some advice ." after interviewed many chinese woman , she said most of them suggest that it's far more better not to choose a african husband . one of the woman said :" u must be very brave to bear the public voice , and also should get used to the way of african's lifestyle , in negerian , women doesn't enjoy the same right as men . women stay in a lower position than men . some african husband like to have sex with others , can u accept that ? they are machismo . once u decide to marry an african , u must be prepared to meet the harsh chanllenge .some african marry chinese just for business,sex,visa and so forth . u must be very careful. of course ,not all african will be so bad , there are very good ones . but the chance to enjoy a successful marriage is very low . u don't need to take that rist ......" i don't understand , love is no boundary , why is there someone always talking something wants them to break up ?each one have the right to choose the live they want , each one must find their own detiny . hope she can find her own one and make the right decision ! i even don't know how to help her , now she is very upset , every day just thinking , her weight is loosing heavily . as her best friend ,i really want to do something for her , so ladies and gentlemen , is it really a risk to choose an african ? is it really more better to choose a chinese husband for her ? hopefully u guys can tell us the truth and give some advice ! thanks in advance !
guess ur friend's parents and colleagues are still having village minds....what makes them think that a chinese man will be better for her...?
in my opinion , it is not because of her friends and parents have village mind , frankly speaking , nowndays most people in china , they don't have a good impression about african . i don't know why . yes ,indeed , it's true that if they love each other truthfully , they can overcome it . but the fact is that she never know if the african guy is loveing her sincerely . she still suspect wheather he comes to her for the purpose of business , sex , visa or something else . but she like him . i think that's why she is so hard to decide . and i remenber she once told me that the guy ever kneel for her don't give up in McDonalds . and also he have required the girl borrow 6000RMB from her parents to moving his business . but she refused. since begannig untill now , they have been stay together for nearly five month , they never making love . coz my friend don't like sex b4 marriage .
Posted: at 13-04-2010 11:14 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
myragonza at 13-04-2010 11:19 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: chik001 on 13-04-2010 11:08 AM
NOBODY ANSWERED HER QUESTION PROPERLY; Question: How do we African / NIGERIAN men treat our WOMEN?
Answer: Disrespect, Second Class, Humiliating, Unequal, Disregard, NO RIGHTS.
We African men, we are Mr. Macho Men, Mr. Know All, Mr I and Me Alone, Mr. Strong Head, Mr. Very Civilized, Mr. Selfish, Mr Individualistic...
not all.......
Quote from: shaphy on 13-04-2010 11:14 AM
in my opinion , it is not because of her friends and parents have village mind , frankly speaking , nowndays most people in china , they don't have a good impression about african . i don't know why . yes ,indeed , it's true that if they love each other truthfully , they can overcome it . but the fact is that she never know if the african guy is loveing her sincerely . she still suspect wheather he comes to her for the purpose of business , sex , visa or something else . but she like him . i think that's why she is so hard to decide . and i remenber she once told me that the guy ever kneel for her don't give up in McDonalds . and also he have required the girl borrow 6000RMB from her parents to moving his business . but she refused. since begannig untill now , they have been stay together for nearly five month , they never making love . coz my friend don't like sex b4 marriage .
poster....ur gf's people didn't give any reason for there refusal. for others dat talked abt being machismo...there r some aspect of truth in dat. but it's all abt individualism, let them make their judgement based on d guy's xter.
ppl differs in so many aspects. d girl really needs their support, we hv same family oriented like d chinese hv.
Posted: at 13-04-2010 11:22 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
NOBODY ANSWERED HER QUESTION PROPERLY; Question: How do we African / NIGERIAN men treat our WOMEN?
Answer: Disrespect, Second Class, Humiliating, Unequal, Disregard, NO RIGHTS.
We African men, we are Mr. Macho Men, Mr. Know All, Mr I and Me Alone, Mr. Strong Head, Mr. Very Civilized, Mr. Selfish, Mr Individualistic...
From the scale of 1 - 10, give me a ratio ?
not all.......
Quote from: shaphy on 13-04-2010 11:14 AM
in my opinion , it is not because of her friends and parents have village mind , frankly speaking , nowndays most people in china , they don't have a good impression about african . i don't know why . yes ,indeed , it's true that if they love each other truthfully , they can overcome it . but the fact is that she never know if the african guy is loveing her sincerely . she still suspect wheather he comes to her for the purpose of business , sex , visa or something else . but she like him . i think that's why she is so hard to decide . and i remenber she once told me that the guy ever kneel for her don't give up in McDonalds . and also he have required the girl borrow 6000RMB from her parents to moving his business . but she refused. since begannig untill now , they have been stay together for nearly five month , they never making love . coz my friend don't like sex b4 marriage .
i guess she have to follow her heart......
Posted: at 13-04-2010 01:30 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
evuarere at 14-04-2010 11:43 AM (14 years ago) (m)
tell her to follow are heart cos not all Nigerians are bad if she really trust him let her give him a chance maybe all he's just asking for is a chance if she really loves the guy from the bottom of her heart let her allow her heart to guide her and not what people say cos they are not gonna choose the mr right for her she will be the one to decide her mr right cos love knows no colour or ethnicity or tribe you come from cos true love comes from the heart and u have the heart not just hear what other will say about it cos is someone's everlasting happiness and joy we are talking about here people have to be very careful what they say cos is gonna count later in the future,let's not have a life time regret just follow your heart cos is the key to your happiness
Posted: at 14-04-2010 11:43 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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