Should someone expose his/her friend, if they are cheating?

Date: 16-01-2011 2:35 am (13 years ago) | Author: sunday sunday
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- at 16-01-2011 02:35 AM (13 years ago)
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A FRIEND OF MINE HAS THIS COLLEAGUE WHO IS MARRIED,AND THEIR FRIENDSHIP HAS DEVELOPED SO RAPIDLY WHEREBY THE COLLEAGUE TELLS  HIM EVERYTHING ABOUT HIMSELF & HIS MARRIAGE LIFE..ACCORDING TO MY GUY,HIS COLLEAGUE LOVE HIS WIFE SO MUCH.NOW THE PROBLEM HERE IS THAT,THE WIFE HAS BEEN CHEATING ON HER HUSBAND WITH A GUY MY FRIEND THOUGHT WAS HER COUSIN.THE LATEST HERE IS THAT MY GUY COINCIDENTLY CAUGHT THE COLLEAGUE WIFE IN A RESTAURANT WITH THIS SAME GUY KISSING AND ROMANCING EACH OTHER...SO HE'S NOW CONFUSED WHETHER TO LET THE COLLEAGUE KNOW THE "KOKO" OR NOT...

SO PALS! WILL YOU INFORM YOUR BEST FRIEND THAT HIS/HER HUSBAND/WIFE OR BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND IS CHEATING Huh? ?

P.S. I HAVE ALREADY GIVING MY GUY, MY OWN ADVICE. I JUST WANT TO HERE FROM YOU.


Posted: at 16-01-2011 02:35 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
- onyin at 16-01-2011 02:43 AM (13 years ago)
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hmmm there are sumthings that are better left unsaid.when my ex-bestfriend's boyfriend was cheating on her,i neva told her.becos she neva trusted me either.so i will say it depends on our friendship.
Posted: at 16-01-2011 02:43 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 16-01-2011 02:47 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: onyin on 16-01-2011 02:43 AM
hmmm there are sumthings that are better left unsaid.when my ex-bestfriend's boyfriend was cheating on her,i neva told her.becos she neva trusted me either.so i will say it depends on our friendship.
depends as in...? coz being someone best friend means alot..though i don't want to go deep right now till i hear responses from pals.

Posted: at 16-01-2011 02:47 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- fireman at 16-01-2011 02:50 AM (13 years ago)
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Don't even try it no matter how close you are.It's not going to solve issues and it doesn't make you a better friend

Posted: at 16-01-2011 02:50 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 16-01-2011 02:51 AM (13 years ago)
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wow!!! so you mean, being silence is the best way right?

Posted: at 16-01-2011 02:51 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- onyin at 16-01-2011 02:58 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 02:47 AM
Quote from: onyin on 16-01-2011 02:43 AM
hmmm there are sumthings that are better left unsaid.when my ex-bestfriend's boyfriend was cheating on her,i neva told her.becos she neva trusted me either.so i will say it depends on our friendship.
depends as in...? coz being someone best friend means alot..though i don't want to go deep right now till i hear responses from pals.
yea, being bestfriends means alot.but not all bestfriends remain bestfriends forever.If at least I saw sum signs of trust in her,I would told her.but there was no sign of trust and she was so quick to show me the other sign of her.sumtimes you have to see the way the other person behaves first,befor you can say anything at all.that will help alot.telling them just like that,will only make matters worst.mostly if the bestfriends are girls/ladies.the other person might think you are jealous of her.
Posted: at 16-01-2011 02:58 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- onyin at 16-01-2011 02:59 AM (13 years ago)
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"i would have"
Posted: at 16-01-2011 02:59 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- fireman at 16-01-2011 03:05 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 02:51 AM
wow!!! so you mean, being silence is the best way right?
Dude am not saying you should be neutral but this one actually calls for diplomacy and telling on a cheating partner does no good in most relationships it leads to breakups.Do you expect your best buddies tell you of some cheating on you?

Posted: at 16-01-2011 03:05 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 16-01-2011 03:05 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: onyin on 16-01-2011 02:58 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 02:47 AM
Quote from: onyin on 16-01-2011 02:43 AM
hmmm there are sumthings that are better left unsaid.when my ex-bestfriend's boyfriend was cheating on her,i neva told her.becos she neva trusted me either.so i will say it depends on our friendship.
depends as in...? coz being someone best friend means alot..though i don't want to go deep right now till i hear responses from pals.
yea, being bestfriends means alot.but not all bestfriends remain best friends forever .If at least I saw sum signs of trust in her,I would told her.but there was no sign of trust and she was so quick to show me the other sign of her.sumtimes you have to see the way the other person behaves first,befor you can say anything at all.that will help alot.telling them just like that,will only make matters worst.mostly if the bestfriends are girls/ladies.the other person might think you are  jealousof her.
hmm made a lot of sense(words in red)  Wink

Posted: at 16-01-2011 03:05 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 16-01-2011 03:13 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: fireman on 16-01-2011 03:05 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 02:51 AM
wow!!! so you mean, being silence is the best way right?
Dude am not saying you should be neutral but this one actually calls for diplomacy and telling on a cheating partner does no good in most relationships it leads to breakups.Do you expect your best buddies tell you of some cheating on you?
hmmm i understand you.is really a tough one.but conscience wouldn't allow a descent dude to have peace.

Posted: at 16-01-2011 03:13 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Pointzero at 16-01-2011 04:04 AM (13 years ago)
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d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage

Posted: at 16-01-2011 04:04 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ILOVEIT at 16-01-2011 04:07 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?

Posted: at 16-01-2011 04:07 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Pointzero at 16-01-2011 04:13 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:07 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?
ok look at it dis way.................the day they where seen in the restaurant kissing.wat he should have done is to try all in his power 2 take d husband to that restaurant pretending thaat they want 2 go n eat or drink...n assume dat he has not noticed that cheating b4.....i think they both will see it as a coincidence n not otherwise

Posted: at 16-01-2011 04:13 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ILOVEIT at 16-01-2011 04:25 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:13 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:07 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?
ok look at it dis way.................the day they where seen in the restaurant kissing.wat he should have done is to try all in his power 2 take d husband to that restaurant pretending thaat they want 2 go n eat or drink...n assume dat he has not noticed that cheating b4.....i think they both will see it as a coincidence n not otherwise
u're right sha! but this my guy was on a date with his fiancee in the same restaurant..so it wont be possible..but u made a good point

Posted: at 16-01-2011 04:25 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Pointzero at 16-01-2011 04:31 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:25 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:13 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:07 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?
ok look at it dis way.................the day they where seen in the restaurant kissing.wat he should have done is to try all in his power 2 take d husband to that restaurant pretending thaat they want 2 go n eat or drink...n assume dat he has not noticed that cheating b4.....i think they both will see it as a coincidence n not otherwise
u're right sha! but this my guy was on a date with his fiancee in the same restaurant..so it wont be possible..but u made a good point
then option 2 must follow remeber he must have seen them several times b4 he was convinced that she was cheatin on her husband...........he will try n mount a lil spy on her n wait for the best opportunity..............cos surely that kinda situation must take place again

Posted: at 16-01-2011 04:31 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ILOVEIT at 16-01-2011 04:38 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:31 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:25 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:13 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:07 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?
ok look at it dis way.................the day they where seen in the restaurant kissing.wat he should have done is to try all in his power 2 take d husband to that restaurant pretending thaat they want 2 go n eat or drink...n assume dat he has not noticed that cheating b4.....i think they both will see it as a coincidence n not otherwise
u're right sha! but this my guy was on a date with his fiancee in the same restaurant..so it wont be possible..but u made a good point
then option 2 must follow remeber he must have seen them several times b4 he was convinced that she was cheatin on her husband...........he will try n mount a lil spy on her n wait for the best opportunity..............cos surely that kinda situation must take place again
you are damn!right about this.coz according to him this is not the first time but, this particular one was too much and my guy has been fighting with his conscience.he can't take it no more.that's why he confide in me.is a great idea about the spy stuff

Posted: at 16-01-2011 04:38 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Pointzero at 16-01-2011 04:43 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:38 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:31 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:25 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:13 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:07 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?
ok look at it dis way.................the day they where seen in the restaurant kissing.wat he should have done is to try all in his power 2 take d husband to that restaurant pretending thaat they want 2 go n eat or drink...n assume dat he has not noticed that cheating b4.....i think they both will see it as a coincidence n not otherwise
u're right sha! but this my guy was on a date with his fiancee in the same restaurant..so it wont be possible..but u made a good point
then option 2 must follow remeber he must have seen them several times b4 he was convinced that she was cheatin on her husband...........he will try n mount a lil spy on her n wait for the best opportunity..............cos surely that kinda situation must take place again
you are damn!right about this.coz according to him this is not the first time but, this particular one was too much and my guy has been fighting with his conscience.he can't take it no more.that's why he confide in me.is a great idea about the spy stuff
yeap but he has 2 spy it partially n not fully.so dat he wont be accused later

Posted: at 16-01-2011 04:43 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ILOVEIT at 16-01-2011 04:47 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:43 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:38 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:31 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:25 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:13 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:07 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?
ok look at it dis way.................the day they where seen in the restaurant kissing.wat he should have done is to try all in his power 2 take d husband to that restaurant pretending thaat they want 2 go n eat or drink...n assume dat he has not noticed that cheating b4.....i think they both will see it as a coincidence n not otherwise
u're right sha! but this my guy was on a date with his fiancee in the same restaurant..so it wont be possible..but u made a good point
then option 2 must follow remeber he must have seen them several times b4 he was convinced that she was cheatin on her husband...........he will try n mount a lil spy on her n wait for the best opportunity..............cos surely that kinda situation must take place again
you are damn!right about this.coz according to him this is not the first time but, this particular one was too much and my guy has been fighting with his conscience.he can't take it no more.that's why he confide in me.is a great idea about the spy stuff
yeap but he has 2 spy it partially n not fully.so dat he wont be accused later
that's the problem..hmmm is a tough one..

Posted: at 16-01-2011 04:47 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Pointzero at 16-01-2011 05:51 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:47 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:43 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:38 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:31 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:25 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:13 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:07 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?
ok look at it dis way.................the day they where seen in the restaurant kissing.wat he should have done is to try all in his power 2 take d husband to that restaurant pretending thaat they want 2 go n eat or drink...n assume dat he has not noticed that cheating b4.....i think they both will see it as a coincidence n not otherwise
u're right sha! but this my guy was on a date with his fiancee in the same restaurant..so it wont be possible..but u made a good point
then option 2 must follow remeber he must have seen them several times b4 he was convinced that she was cheatin on her husband...........he will try n mount a lil spy on her n wait for the best opportunity..............cos surely that kinda situation must take place again
you are damn!right about this.coz according to him this is not the first time but, this particular one was too much and my guy has been fighting with his conscience.he can't take it no more.that's why he confide in me.is a great idea about the spy stuff
yeap but he has 2 spy it partially n not fully.so dat he wont be accused later
that's the problem..hmmm is a tough one..
yeap i know but it has be done..................with caution

Posted: at 16-01-2011 05:51 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- taullycee at 16-01-2011 06:29 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 05:51 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:47 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:43 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:38 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:31 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:25 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:13 AM
Quote from: ILOVEIT on 16-01-2011 04:07 AM
Quote from: Pointzero on 16-01-2011 04:04 AM
d best thing is to give ur friend a lil hint that will make him discover that by himself......................cos if u carry it on ur end n they separate they will accuse both u n the [cousine] for breaking their marriage
oh jeh!which kind of hint are u taking about pointzero?
ok look at it dis way.................the day they where seen in the restaurant kissing.wat he should have done is to try all in his power 2 take d husband to that restaurant pretending thaat they want 2 go n eat or drink...n assume dat he has not noticed that cheating b4.....i think they both will see it as a coincidence n not otherwise
u're right sha! but this my guy was on a date with his fiancee in the same restaurant..so it wont be possible..but u made a good point
then option 2 must follow remeber he must have seen them several times b4 he was convinced that she was cheatin on her husband...........he will try n mount a lil spy on her n wait for the best opportunity..............cos surely that kinda situation must take place again
you are damn!right about this.coz according to him this is not the first time but, this particular one was too much and my guy has been fighting with his conscience.he can't take it no more.that's why he confide in me.is a great idea about the spy stuff
yeap but he has 2 spy it partially n not fully.so dat he wont be accused later
that's the problem..hmmm is a tough one..
yeap i know but it has be done..................with caution
the guy can still call d cousin to order,so that he will know that d woman is his friend's wife and they should put a stop to the attrocity called love they are committing and then talk to d woman to stop messing with his cousin but will pretend as if nothing has ever happened b/w d cousin and d woman once she will stop...but if they did not stop...then go ahead to tell ud friend there is no way u will suger coat bitter...
Posted: at 16-01-2011 06:29 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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