I sat at my desk quietly doing my work when he walked in, his face betraying no emotion; he was no stranger. He sat down and quickly went to the story.
The story was about his elder brother and his (elder brother's) wife. They had a misunderstanding last night and the lady was about packing out for ever. I remember intervening a couple of times to save their young marriage (two and half years old with no child). According to the young man, the little misunderstanding was blown out of proportion by both parties and the lady later left the house that night around 11pm only to return an hour later. I was made to understand that the lady said she is 'done' with the marriage and went ahead to place a kind of 'curse' saying: 'WHOEVER WOULD APOLOGISE WOULD DIE BY ACCIDENT'. That was gross.
Now I dont want to be a party to any division of marriage and I know the potency of spoken words, especially negative ones, therefore am confused about what to tell this young couple. They await my advice on this but I really dont know what to tell them right now. So I have come to my ever helpful and brilliant NP members. Please I need your help, what should this young man do?
Thanks for your help.
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Posted: at 15-06-2011 12:54 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
divineproject at 15-06-2011 01:34 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Pls help a sister oo.....Sophie wey u na?
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Posted: at 15-06-2011 01:34 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
marriage is not by force if she done then SOBEIT no need forcing someone to stay where s/he is not happy .........let d young man forge ahead with his life ........life is too short
my name is kebella ........yu already no that ...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!!
Posted: at 15-06-2011 01:40 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
marriage is not by force if she's done then SOBEIT no need forcing someone to stay where s/he is not happy .........let d young man forge ahead with his life ........life is too short
no dulling
my name is kebella ........yu already no that ...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!!
Posted: at 15-06-2011 01:41 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
divineproject at 15-06-2011 01:47 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: kebella on 15-06-2011 01:40 PM
marriage is not by force if she done then SOBEIT no need forcing someone to stay where s/he is not happy .........let d young man forge ahead with his life ........life is too short
Hmmm......KB, dont you think such words would have been said in the heat of anger and the lady might later come back to her senses?
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Posted: at 15-06-2011 01:47 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
I don't forsee any future with these two. Good a thing that there is no children involved and that makes it much easier for them to go their separate ways. If you do anything that will bring them back, it might be temporary and might end up with one person dropping dead - then what will you do, spend a life blaming yourself??
Posted: at 15-06-2011 01:52 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
marriage is not by force if she done then SOBEIT no need forcing someone to stay where s/he is not happy .........let d young man forge ahead with his life ........life is too short
Hmmm......KB, dont you think such words would have been said in the heat of anger and the lady might later come back to her senses?
no i dont think so those 2 re not meant to be 2gether.......yu stated that *I remember intervening a couple of times to save their young marriage* so tell me what do yu think that wil keep this couple together (to live in peace) yu ve tried ur best so let them settle their differences..............when there is a ''third party '' in r/ship believe me that marriage is as gud as dead , they shuld be grateful to go their seperate ways afterall there is no bound '' kids''
my name is kebella ........yu already no that ...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!!
Posted: at 15-06-2011 01:59 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
FlyMamacita at 15-06-2011 02:08 PM (13 years ago) (f)
So u already had to help them out a few times before? Means they are not doing good at all But, i do believe that the lady regret what she did/said otherwise she wouldnt com back after 1 hour. I think the best thing is for them to give each other a break,, maybe she can go back home for a while or stay with a friend, so that they both have time to think things through...It doesnt make sense to end the marriage here, bcos nottin realy happend? Let them understand tht marriage is hard work, and it has to come from 2 sides...
Posted: at 15-06-2011 02:08 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
So u already had to help them out a few times before? Means they are not doing good at all But, i do believe that the lady regret what she did/said otherwise she wouldnt com back after 1 hour. I think the best thing is for them to give each other a break,, maybe she can go back home for a while or stay with a friend, so that they both have time to think things through...It doesnt make sense to end the marriage here, bcos nottin realy happend? Let them understand tht marriage is hard work, and it has to come from 2 sides...
gbam! they re not compatible
my name is kebella ........yu already no that ...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!!
Posted: at 15-06-2011 02:18 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
divineproject at 15-06-2011 02:29 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 15-06-2011 02:10 PM
wHAT EXACTLY PROMPTED HER TO UTTER SUCH WORDS?
is it cos of the child issue thats making her upset or want to quit?
Sophie I dont know ooo, I was not there......but what I understand is that the lady wants to be in control of the relationship. I have seen her, she wants to be heard always and again she is her parents last born.......i don know if this is having an effect on how she is behaving......because i really do expect her to calm down, especially as she has no child to hold on to in this marriage.....She is at a disadvantage here if the marriage collapses.......
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Posted: at 15-06-2011 02:29 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
FlyMamacita at 15-06-2011 02:31 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Well if she always wanna be heard, and it turns out in this means the man shud try harder to bring som sense into her head. He must train her into wifey material, so she can let go of her stubborn behaviour.
Posted: at 15-06-2011 02:31 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
........yu already no that 
...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!!
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