My Fellow Naijapals! i got this on my naijapals inbox from a guy (Username Withheld) and i thought it wise to share here.Ur Ideas will help him greatly. Please Read!
Dear Dr, Romance...I'm trying to find out why I always have sex on the first date. This is not to say that I have sex with every girl I date, or even that every girl I've gone out with has even been interested in me. It is simply to say that the overwhelming majority of my "situations" have been one date situations, for whatever reason and on the occasions that the woman is interested in me, we usually end up having sex.
To make matters worse (or more clear), I can meet someone on Thursday, call her on Friday, and usually by the end of that conversation we're talking about sex and she's ready to go at it, even if we were talking about politics at the beginning of the conversation. In the end, one of two things usually happens:
1: I have sex and never see the girl again (even if I call), or
2: I never see the girl again and never have sex with her (even if I call).
This is both a serious compliment to me (who doesn't want to be sexy?) and a serious impediment as I'd like to actually get to know one of these women and find someone decent to have a relationship with. However, without knowing how to prevent the sex and/or the running away (on the occasions that the woman is interested but decides not to pick up the phone ever again) from happening, it is proving difficult to figure out the cause and thus prevent it from happening.
Asking the women hasn't yielded any answers, nor has asking the few female friends I have left. One did mention that she thought my intelligence might be a problem for most women... then she became attracted to me and I never saw her again... others have mentioned that I have a sexy speaking voice... but nothing I feel that can really help me out.
Do you have any ideas?
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 1-02-2013 11:20 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
olamzy9039 at 1-02-2013 11:32 AM (12 years ago) (m)
hmmmmmmmmm::::::::::: i guess u are either on a cause, better pary so u can be free
Posted: at 1-02-2013 11:32 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
Nothing controls you, but u control things. That you make love on ur first date and never see the girl again means ur both attracted to each other and perhaps your performance on the first date was not very interesting that could be one of the possible reasons.
All the same, if u decide to put a stop on making love on the first date, you can, its a matter of determination. Remember where there is a WILL, there is a WAY. Just be willing and there will come a way.
Good luck to you
Posted: at 1-02-2013 01:48 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 1-02-2013 02:17 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Idbabe on 1-02-2013 01:48 PM
Nothing controls you, but u control things. That you make love on ur first date and never see the girl again means ur both attracted to each other and perhaps your performance on the first date was not very interesting that could be one of the possible reasons.
All the same, if u decide to put a stop on making love on the first date, you can, its a matter of determination. Remember where there is a WILL, there is a WAY. Just be willing and there will come a way.
Good luck to you
this advice is very nice.. welldone sis
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 1-02-2013 02:17 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
U need to consult with the witches in Ur village. They're still on Ur case.
This guy no get case at all as far as am concern. Its a matter of the mindset. Nothing do you jooooooor. So many ppl here dat are condemning him also do the same tin. So?
Posted: at 1-02-2013 04:11 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
Encyclopedia at 1-02-2013 04:15 PM (12 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Idbabe on 1-02-2013 01:48 PM
Nothing controls you, but u control things. That you make love on ur first date and never see the girl again means ur both attracted to each other and perhaps your performance on the first date was not very interesting that could be one of the possible reasons.
All the same, if u decide to put a stop on making love on the first date, you can, its a matter of determination. Remember where there is a WILL, there is a WAY. Just be willing and there will come a way.
Good luck to you true talk dude
Posted: at 1-02-2013 04:15 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
sophiebaby at 1-02-2013 04:15 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Idbabe on 1-02-2013 04:11 PM
This guy no get case at all as far as am concern. Its a matter of the mindset. Nothing do you jooooooor. So many ppl here dat are condemning him also do the same tin. So?
yes and i no so many of dem here..make i call names?
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 1-02-2013 04:15 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
yes and i no so many of dem here..make i call names?
Abeg no call names. Leave them make dem dey hide. Somebody is bold enough to tell his story and they are crucifying him. Who made u ppl judge over him by the way?
Posted: at 1-02-2013 04:23 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 1-02-2013 04:28 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Idbabe on 1-02-2013 04:23 PM
Abeg no call names. Leave them make dem dey hide. Somebody is bold enough to tell his story and they are crucifying him. Who made u ppl judge over him by the way?
dont mind dem.. they do worse behind bars sef.. even the ones who call dem selves "matured' men
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 1-02-2013 04:28 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero