I hav a desperate friend of mine, who came to ask me for advice last night...
She is in a relationship for almost 3 years now, they love each other very much and plan to get married soon...
But d big problem for her is.... Her bf is not rily into sex... It cud happen once or twice a month but not more... She talked to him already 2 much, and all he does is make promisses he doesnt keep...He said he will change, but notin happens...
She realy wanna stay with him, but is scared tht eventualy she will cheat on him (she is not a cheating type)... In her mind she feel insecure, cuz she dont understand why he doesnt wanna? She is a very beautiful woman, a good 'wife', she tried so many things already.... and nothin works...
My question now, cud u stay in a relationship like tht? And pls any advice for d woman ??
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:18 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
qunodinga at 28-08-2010 12:21 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Why, not...we have come to conclusion that SEX id not Love..personally, i think the guy is waiting untill the day they walks the aisle....A wiffy material is not to be rush...tell her to relax if truely she love the guy.
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:21 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
FlyMamacita at 28-08-2010 12:23 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: qunodinga on 28-08-2010 12:21 PM
Why, not...we have come to conclusion that SEX id not Love..personally, i think the guy is waiting untill the day they walks the aisle....A wiffy material is not to be rush...tell her to relax if truely she love the guy.
Yes i was also thinking tht mayb he wanted to wait untill they r married...But she thinks it will not make a difference..
Sex is not love hmmm, so maybe she is using sex to much to show d love ?
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:23 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
bittersweet at 28-08-2010 12:25 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 28-08-2010 12:18 PM
I hav a desperate friend of mine, who came to ask me for advice last night...
She is in a relationship for almost 3 years now, they love each other very much and plan to get married soon...
But d big problem for her is.... Her bf is not rily into sex... It cud happen once or twice a month but not more... She talked to him already 2 much, and all he does is make promisses he doesnt keep...He said he will change, but notin happens...
She realy wanna stay with him, but is scared tht eventualy she will cheat on him (she is not a cheating type)... In her mind she feel insecure, cuz she dont understand why he doesnt wanna? She is a very beautiful woman, a good 'wife', she tried so many things already.... and nothin works...
My question now, cud u stay in a relationship like tht? And pls any advice for d woman ??
If the guy doesn't want it now, when that burning passion is supposed to be there,can you imagine how will be later? If she needs it more than he can offer, maybe she should reconsider that relationship!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:25 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
divineproject at 28-08-2010 12:33 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Sex is important in a relationship, but it is not all that matters........
Has she bothered to find out if he feels bad about having premarital sex?.............it could be he actually want to stay away from sex till he gets married, but is doing the little he can just to oblige her.........if this guy is good in other areas, I think she is lucky.
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:33 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
FlyMamacita at 28-08-2010 12:36 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: divineproject on 28-08-2010 12:33 PM
Sex is important in a relationship, but it is not all that matters........
Has she bothered to find out if he feels bad about having premarital sex?.............it could be he actually want to stay away from sex till he gets married, but is doing the little he can just to oblige her.........if this guy is good in other areas, I think she is lucky.
Well tht was 1 of d first things she was thinking...wht if he doesnt feel comfortable having sex before marriage...
But he said it has nothin to do with tht, he says he is just not d type of man who is into sex tht much...
Can tht b true? Cuz d way i hear her story, she think it is impossible for a guy not to love sex...
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:36 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
FlyMamacita at 28-08-2010 12:37 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Michro on 28-08-2010 12:31 PM
Sex is just for self satisfaction but doesn't guarrantee a true love
No it doesnt guarrantee true love, tht i agree on...
But she is wondering, why he doesnt wanna have more sex, wht is wrong ? If there is someting wrong... And she feels like, how come he can not do tht effort for me, if he knows he can make me happy like tht...
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:37 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
bittersweet at 28-08-2010 12:45 PM (13 years ago) (f)
That's something which only the guy knows! And God,of course! But maybe he doesn't! Exist those kind of guys, and in that case,she should not expect to be better later!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:45 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
I hav a desperate friend of mine, who came to ask me for advice last night...
She is in a relationship for almost 3 years now, they love each other very much and plan to get married soon...
But d big problem for her is.... Her bf is not rily into sex... It cud happen once or twice a month but not more... She talked to him already 2 much, and all he does is make promisses he doesnt keep...He said he will change, but notin happens...
She realy wanna stay with him, but is scared tht eventualy she will cheat on him (she is not a cheating type)... In her mind she feel insecure, cuz she dont understand why he doesnt wanna? She is a very beautiful woman, a good 'wife', she tried so many things already.... and nothin works...
My question now, cud u stay in a relationship like tht? And pls any advice for d woman ??
Is he a fag? How old is he? Does he do drugs? Does he smoke? What is his diet like? Was he assaulted as a child?
He sexy is your friend? Has she studied the Karma Sutra?
If he is a fag, then she has to quit the relationship immediately. If he smokes or does some drug that kills libido, he has to stop. If he was assaulted as a child then he has to open up. ===========
Hell, what is she feeding this guy?
===========
Okay, for starters and for mostly investigative purpose, she has to drug this guy with some prescription over the next 1 month and record his performance. Afterwards compare it with his performance with out drugs. She can consult an understanding and sympathetic doctor for prescription.
Worse case scenario, tell her to get a toy. Ha ahahhaa ha.
Posted: at 28-08-2010 12:52 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
You are always hahahahahahahaing.............wetin dey honeypotri you?....huh?
Ha hahahaha. When you see life sometimes from the good and the bad, and the ugly, sometimes you just laugh.
Divine project, I am still discovering my nature. I however laughed because of my worst case scenario prescription. Ha hahahahah. That one is funny. I think it is.
Posted: at 28-08-2010 01:56 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
I hav a desperate friend of mine, who came to ask me for advice last night...
She is in a relationship for almost 3 years now, they love each other very much and plan to get married soon...
But d big problem for her is.... Her bf is not rily into sex... It cud happen once or twice a month but not more... She talked to him already 2 much, and all he does is make promisses he doesnt keep...He said he will change, but notin happens...
She realy wanna stay with him, but is scared tht eventualy she will cheat on him (she is not a cheating type)... In her mind she feel insecure, cuz she dont understand why he doesnt wanna? She is a very beautiful woman, a good 'wife', she tried so many things already.... and nothin works...
My question now, cud u stay in a relationship like tht? And pls any advice for d woman ??
So she is bothered he isnt enthused with pre-marital sex? Cos that's what it could be. If it is then she should reconsider the whole marriage thing with him. See people that aren't all into pre-marital sex but still compromise cos they wont say no to the person they are with end up not liking those people too much when guilt hits hard.
Anyway, I don't know what advice to offer her yet. Lemme just think about it.
Posted: at 28-08-2010 02:06 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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