![-]( "estilizo") estilizo at 11-04-2011 05:28 PM (14 years ago)  (f)  ,am lovin this
THE BEST WAY TO REVENGE IS TO FORGIVE..........FORGIVE THE TEARS OF A HURTFUL PAST. | Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:28 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "sophiebaby") sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 05:30 PM (14 years ago) (f) 
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :* | Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:30 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 11-04-2011 05:32 PM (14 years ago) (m) Just like Mc Donalds
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:32 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Trendytee") Trendytee at 11-04-2011 05:40 PM (14 years ago) (m) it's quite amazing when I hear things like this, how can you can "abuse" a way of controlling a woman or making her submissive; that's totally absurd. The only reason woman tend to stay in abusive relationships is because that is the only form of love they have seen, and they blv that's the way it should be..... In reality it's total nonsense | Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:40 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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How to deal with them:
- U shouldn't present urself in such a way that he/she finds it easily to overshadow u.
- When d controlling person is ur spouse/partner/close friend/colleague,u can't ignore him/her completely.In such a situation,u need to show ur full cooperation.Make him/her feel that both of u work as a team & that neither of u is the Lord or the master.
- In order to facilitate a response in ur favor,u should express ur feelings in a levelheaded way.Communicate with them about d fact that u feel offended by their strange behavior.
-They often dominate others & become aggressive when they r not listened or agreed to.While dealing with such ppl,u shouldn't project yourself as a weak person,bcz they might take u for granted & start imposing their "rules" upon u.
- It's their way to make u believe that u can't do things without them.In this case,u need to make it loud & clear that u can still make decisions on ur own.Show them that u just want to share things with them,instead of depending upon their support.
- These ppl,by all means,want others to obey them.In d process,they often make pitiable faces as to gain sympathy from others. They may even show anger or go to d extent of crying to get their things done.While dealing with them,u shouldn't surrender urself. Instead,just walk away from d situation,with a smile on ur face. 
KUDOS BS 
Live and let live! | Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:53 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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......thumpps up!! BitterSWEET
Are you looking for trouble, huh?
Live and let live! | Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:55 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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lol..sorry!!...just kiddin' | Posted: at 11-04-2011 06:03 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "kebella") kebella at 11-04-2011 06:10 PM (14 years ago) (f) Not all controlling men r bad,, besides many women need a man like dat.
totally disagree with yu mama, i hate controlling man infact i like to be in charge of things 
of d house at d right time, dusn mean i got nottin to say tho.i feel yu buh sometime when yu give them length they want yard that makes me to be in charge always buh thats doesnt mean he don ve a say in d houx buh there re areas he did control , there must be a "line"
my name is kebella ........yu already no that  ...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!! | Posted: at 11-04-2011 06:10 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "50scent") 50scent at 11-04-2011 06:21 PM (14 years ago) (m) ......thumpps up!! BitterSWEET
Are you looking for trouble, huh?
RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE FORUM; MINISTER FOR WOMEN AFFAIRS WELCOMES YOU | Posted: at 11-04-2011 06:21 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Live and let live! | Posted: at 11-04-2011 06:24 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "xena15") xena15 at 11-04-2011 06:26 PM (14 years ago) (f) He/she keeps track of your relationships. A controlling person will try to cause trouble between u & ur family or friends.This is in order to isolate u from others.
Does the person ignore ur experience?Controllers attempt to define ur reality.If u say u're tired & d person says u're not, that's a good sign he or she is a controlling person.
Notice people who get frustrated with normal questions.Controlling ppl often assume that they understand how u think, even when they actually don't.They may become frustrated because their constructed image of u is at odds with what u say.
Be on d lookout for moodiness. Ppl with moody personalities r often unhappy with their own lives & try to improve their situation by controlling others.
Be aware of people who don't seem to understand d word "no" & who will insist until they wear u down to make u give in.
Consider if u r often expected to change ur plans for this person.Let's say u have ur day all planned out & then u receive a phone call from a friend,& u tell them ur plans.The person wants to join in with ur plans,with d exception that ur time doesn't work well for them,or maybe that isn't d place they want to go.The next thing that u know,ur plans have totally changed.U end up seeing a movie that u didn't care to see,at a time that u didn't really care to go.
Listen for compliments.Often ppl with control issues r not very good at giving sincere compliments.They don't want u to feel good about yourself because it may take control & attention away from them.
Be on d lookout for not only moodiness,but temper outbursts by d other person when u disagree with them or don't do exactly what they want u to do. In their minds,u r challenging their authority over u.
But,keep in mind, just because someone is opinionated doesn't mean they r controlling. A good test to tell d difference between some1 who is just very opinionated or controlling is if they willingly accept or tolerate differences between u and them and don't try to change any part of ur core person or personality.
If u really love this person things can be much more difficult.Most ppl who r controlling always throw in d argument the words "U r d problem" or U have a problem." Nothing is ever their fault.
They always use words like " do this" ", "if u leave", "u need to...", etc.
They can be very generous & seem to give u lots of things.So u always feel like u're benefiting from them in some way & so owe them something. They then use that obligation u feel towards them to control u.
i gat nuffin 2 add,u said it all.
D devil must b using ur destiny 2 weave his pubic hair if u think imma change all ma colors 4 u! | Posted: at 11-04-2011 06:26 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Live and let live! | Posted: at 11-04-2011 06:27 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "scottedwin") scottedwin at 11-04-2011 06:29 PM (14 years ago) (m) sincerelly speaking some women need to be controlled bt not beating also some women like it wen u beat them, take them to bathroom and give them nice bath, massage their body and then sex. some men also need to be control by their wife wen he is going off key | Posted: at 11-04-2011 06:29 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "proly") proly at 11-04-2011 07:17 PM (14 years ago) (f) ok | Posted: at 11-04-2011 07:17 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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1. What are the controlling men warning signs & symptoms or characteristics of the personality of controlling men. - divide and conquer- number one he take away yur support mechanisms by causing seprating yu from yur frns n family.
then he ensure that yu r totally reliant on him. He starts with a soft approach of letting yu know that no one but him has got yur back and he is very happy with that role. He wants to build a life with yu, yu and him against the world; together forever or sum other BS he is cooking up.
Once yu r comfortable here (some women r there after three months others take longer). Then comes the bad stuff-reminding yu that yu will neva amt to anything w/o him. Afterall, look around yu, yu r trash n no one else wants to be around yu. Then of corse he apologises cuz yu know how much of a temper he has.... Now this is the point yu can put yur foot down- he is testing yu.
then a slap wen yu do sumthing wrong- he apologise n tells yu that yu r his life, he will treat yu n cause conflicting emotions in yu cuz he must luv yu. perhaps yu gotta b more careful cuz he is angry n as his gf yu gotta b careful yu dont trigger his anger. but that is just the beginning....
2. Why do Women Fail to Identify Controlling Men? low self esteem, daddy issues to name a few | Posted: at 11-04-2011 07:19 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "djosh4cesc") djosh4cesc at 11-04-2011 08:21 PM (14 years ago) (m) Very lovely post,but i will like to see something written about conrolling women | Posted: at 11-04-2011 08:21 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "oohio2007") oohio2007 at 11-04-2011 09:03 PM (14 years ago) (m) Not all controlling men r bad,, besides many women need a man like dat.
VERY CORRECT.A VERY NICE RESPONSE
''NO MAN KNOWETH THE HOUR'' | Posted: at 11-04-2011 09:03 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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Not all controlling men r bad,, besides many women need a man like dat.
VERY CORRECT.A VERY NICE RESPONSE | Posted: at 11-04-2011 09:05 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "oohio2007") oohio2007 at 11-04-2011 09:10 PM (14 years ago) (m) The number of women dealing with controlling men in this world is very large. Many men are egoistic and have the habit of dominating or 'controlling' their wives or girlfriends. They want their partner to dance to their tunes and follow their instructions without any sort of protest or arguments. Dealing with controlling men in relationships can be tough for women, but it is possible if they understand the mentality or the controlling men behavior perfectly.
1. What are the controlling men warning signs & symptoms or characteristics of the personality of controlling men.
2. Why do Women Fail to Identify Controlling Men?
lets go there!
Is your topic abusive men or controlling men? Abusive and controlling are two different words,You are mixing things up and i am not getting it.Be specific.
''NO MAN KNOWETH THE HOUR'' | Posted: at 11-04-2011 09:10 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "oohio2007") oohio2007 at 11-04-2011 09:19 PM (14 years ago) (m) He/she keeps track of your relationships. A controlling person will try to cause trouble between u & ur family or friends.This is in order to isolate u from others.
Does the person ignore ur experience?Controllers attempt to define ur reality.If u say u're tired & d person says u're not, that's a good sign he or she is a controlling person.
Notice people who get frustrated with normal questions.Controlling ppl often assume that they understand how u think, even when they actually don't.They may become frustrated because their constructed image of u is at odds with what u say.
Be on d lookout for moodiness. Ppl with moody personalities r often unhappy with their own lives & try to improve their situation by controlling others.
Be aware of people who don't seem to understand d word "no" & who will insist until they wear u down to make u give in.
Consider if u r often expected to change ur plans for this person.Let's say u have ur day all planned out & then u receive a phone call from a friend,& u tell them ur plans.The person wants to join in with ur plans,with d exception that ur time doesn't work well for them,or maybe that isn't d place they want to go.The next thing that u know,ur plans have totally changed.U end up seeing a movie that u didn't care to see,at a time that u didn't really care to go.
Listen for compliments.Often ppl with control issues r not very good at giving sincere compliments.They don't want u to feel good about yourself because it may take control & attention away from them.
Be on d lookout for not only moodiness,but temper outbursts by d other person when u disagree with them or don't do exactly what they want u to do. In their minds,u r challenging their authority over u.
But,keep in mind, just because someone is opinionated doesn't mean they r controlling. A good test to tell d difference between some1 who is just very opinionated or controlling is if they willingly accept or tolerate differences between u and them and don't try to change any part of ur core person or personality.
If u really love this person things can be much more difficult.Most ppl who r controlling always throw in d argument the words "U r d problem" or U have a problem." Nothing is ever their fault.
They always use words like " do this" ", "if u leave", "u need to...", etc.
They can be very generous & seem to give u lots of things.So u always feel like u're benefiting from them in some way & so owe them something. They then use that obligation u feel towards them to control u.
Hmmmmmmmm! QUITE REVEALING
''NO MAN KNOWETH THE HOUR'' | Posted: at 11-04-2011 09:19 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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