Abusive Relationship! CONTROLLING MEN (Page 5)

Date: 11-04-2011 11:05 am (13 years ago) | Author: uduak Sophia Monday
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 03:49 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: nametalkam on 11-04-2011 03:36 PM
I see, so he is you ex? and I am the next?

Am I right?

nope u not..
u arent the next, i have no next aside my waco

Posted: at 11-04-2011 03:49 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- divineproject at 11-04-2011 03:51 PM (13 years ago)
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Reading and taking notes................. Lips Sealed

Posted: at 11-04-2011 03:51 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- nametalkam at 11-04-2011 03:52 PM (13 years ago)
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Women are heartless :'( :'( :'(

Posted: at 11-04-2011 03:52 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 03:58 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: nametalkam on 11-04-2011 03:52 PM
Women are heartless :'( :'( :'(

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
pls dont cry nowwwwwwwww
is just dat i only wanna be a frnd on Np..
i love my waco oooooooo
cos only him na im understand me..
i need him now more than ever..

sorry Nametalkam..no cry again e yahhhhhh!

Posted: at 11-04-2011 03:58 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- dirtykid at 11-04-2011 04:02 PM (13 years ago)
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 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:02 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- deboalabi262 at 11-04-2011 04:09 PM (13 years ago)
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As the head of the family, I am in full control and I have a happy and lovely family. Grin

Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:09 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- blessedme at 11-04-2011 04:09 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: olumbareal on 11-04-2011 01:31 PM
Quote from: blessedme on 11-04-2011 01:29 PM
Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked

Ble Ble! how u dey?
ma bros i dey oo....ow ya end naa
Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:09 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- divineproject at 11-04-2011 04:10 PM (13 years ago)
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So now now dem don break somebody heart?......e mean say egg strong pass this heart self........

Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:10 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- blessedme at 11-04-2011 04:10 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 11-04-2011 01:34 PM
Quote from: blessedme on 11-04-2011 01:29 PM
Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked

Wetin na?.......why you dey put eyes for Diplo and Dirty matter?.....close ur eyes jor and pass....
pls i need eyes drop oooo.......i cant fit shout ooo
Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:10 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- blessedme at 11-04-2011 04:12 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: diplomatik on 11-04-2011 01:31 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 11-04-2011 01:27 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 11-04-2011 01:23 PM
hehehe....hug me na..u know say i dey miss u plenty  Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Smiley


Muah and polar bear Hugzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz all over, squeeze !! squeeze !! and still  Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss 
Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Tongue Cheesy
uhmmm..i'm njoying baby..but why is blessed shocked is something going on between u 2  Huh? Undecided Sad
Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry so its took u so long to realize that ba
Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:12 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- yukicares4u at 11-04-2011 04:13 PM (13 years ago)
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Learning... Cool
Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:13 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- blessedme at 11-04-2011 04:13 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: diplomatik on 11-04-2011 01:36 PM
my divine sis...u know say if na u i go dey ok..but  another person wey no get authorisation code i dey vex small  Grin Grin Grin

how ya ?  Cheesy
Angry Angry Angry Lips Sealed Lips Sealed
Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:13 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- blessedme at 11-04-2011 04:14 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on 11-04-2011 01:38 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 11-04-2011 01:31 PM
Quote from: dirtykid on 11-04-2011 01:27 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 11-04-2011 01:23 PM
hehehe....hug me na..u know say i dey miss u plenty  Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Smiley


Muah and polar bear Hugzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz all over, squeeze !! squeeze !! and still  Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss 
Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Kiss Tongue Cheesy
uhmmm..i'm njoying baby..but why is blessed shocked is something going on between u 2  Huh? Undecided Sad

Hehehehe... I guess she never saw a polar bear hugging before, thats why the shock  Grin Grin
Angry Angry Angry Shocked Shocked
Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:14 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- divineproject at 11-04-2011 04:19 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: blessedme on 11-04-2011 04:13 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 11-04-2011 01:36 PM
my divine sis...u know say if na u i go dey ok..but  another person wey no get authorisation code i dey vex small  Grin Grin Grin

how ya ?  Cheesy
Angry Angry Angry Lips Sealed Lips Sealed

 Wink Wink

Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:19 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- blessedme at 11-04-2011 04:23 PM (13 years ago)
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 Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked
i see again
sophie and na me talk am
buh i  Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed
Posted: at 11-04-2011 04:23 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- estilizo at 11-04-2011 05:21 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 11-04-2011 11:58 AM
How to deal with them:
- U shouldn't present urself in such a way that he/she finds it easily to overshadow u.
- When d controlling person is ur spouse/partner/close friend/colleague,u can't  ignore him/her completely.In such a situation,u need to show ur full cooperation.Make him/her feel that both of u work as a team & that neither of u is the Lord or the master.
- In order to facilitate a response in ur favor,u should express ur feelings in a levelheaded way.Communicate with them about d fact that u feel offended by their strange behavior.
-They often dominate others & become aggressive when they r not listened or agreed to.While dealing with such ppl,u shouldn't project yourself as a weak person,bcz they might take u for granted & start imposing their "rules" upon u.
- It's their way to make u believe that u can't do things without them.In this case,u need to make it loud & clear that u can still make decisions on ur own.Show them that u just want to share things with them,instead of depending upon their support.
- These ppl,by all means,want others to obey them.In d process,they often make pitiable faces as to gain sympathy from others. They may even show anger or go to d extent of crying to get their things done.While dealing with them,u shouldn't surrender urself. Instead,just walk away from d situation,with a smile on ur face. Wink

KUDOS BS

Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:21 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Youngstoriez at 11-04-2011 05:22 PM (13 years ago)
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if a lady feels am controlling her and its hurting her...i'd stop now!!
Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:22 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Youngstoriez at 11-04-2011 05:22 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 11-04-2011 11:35 AM
He/she keeps track of your relationships. A controlling person will try to cause trouble between u & ur family or friends.This is in order to isolate u from others.

Does the person ignore ur experience?Controllers attempt to define ur reality.If u say u're tired & d person says u're not, that's a good sign he or she is a controlling person.

Notice people who get frustrated with normal questions.Controlling ppl often assume that they understand how u think, even when they actually don't.They may become frustrated because their constructed image of u is at odds with what u say.

Be on d lookout for moodiness. Ppl with moody personalities r often unhappy with their own lives & try to improve their situation by controlling others.

Be aware of people who don't seem to understand d word "no" & who will insist until they wear u down to make u give in.

Consider if u r often expected to change ur plans for this person.Let's say u have ur day all planned out & then u receive a phone call from a friend,& u tell them ur plans.The person wants to join in with ur plans,with d exception that ur time doesn't work well for them,or maybe that isn't d place they want to go.The next thing that u know,ur plans have totally changed.U end up seeing a movie that u didn't care to see,at a time that u didn't really care to go.

Listen for compliments.Often ppl with control issues r not very good at giving sincere compliments.They don't want u to feel good about yourself because it may take control & attention away from them.

Be on d lookout for not only moodiness,but temper outbursts by d other person when u disagree with them or don't do exactly what they want u to do. In their minds,u r challenging their authority over u.

But,keep in mind, just because someone is opinionated doesn't mean they r controlling. A good test to tell d difference between some1 who is just very opinionated or controlling is if they willingly accept or tolerate differences between u and them and don't try to change any part of ur core person or personality.

If u really love this person things can be much more difficult.Most ppl who r controlling always throw in d argument the words "U r d problem" or U have a problem." Nothing is ever their fault.

They always use words like " do this" ", "if u leave", "u need to...", etc.

They can be very generous & seem to give u lots of things.So u always feel like u're benefiting from them in some way & so owe them something. They then use that obligation u feel towards them to control u.

[/quote]....i dey feel yu jor
Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:22 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 05:24 PM (13 years ago)
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 Grin

Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:24 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Youngstoriez at 11-04-2011 05:26 PM (13 years ago)
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......thumpps up!! Bitter SWEAT
Posted: at 11-04-2011 05:26 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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