If your spouse admits being HIV positive on wedding night...

Published 8 years ago by: Daniel Bosai
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at 01:44 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)

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“May God bless the holy matrimony between you, Dennis and ‘Ronke. You will multiply and be fruitful in all ways..,” said the officiating minister and the congregation responded with a loud Amen. It was a great day for ‘Ronke, who had been dreaming of this day and praying it comes to reality.

Unfortunately, it became another ball game entirely for both after the wedding reception. Dennis called his wife in a soft voice, but stammering as he looked into her eyes. With tears flowing from his eyes “come on baby, stop this, I know how you feel.

It’s our happiest day,” said Ronke. I have a confession to make. I didn’t tell you earlier, because I was afraid I’ll lose you to another man. My doctor has confirmed that I have the virus…”

I do not understand…., what virus, asked Ronke whose countenance changed instantly. After Dennis explained to her , ‘Ronke, the beautiful new bride collapsed and it took quite an effort to resuscitate her.
What would you do if you were ‘Ronke or if your spouse confesses being HIV positive on your wedding night?

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Kehinde
The first thing that might likely happen is to cry in disbelief and probably faint. After I might have regained consciousness, no matter the plea, I will report to his parents and family members and ask them what they want me to do at this crucial time before taking my own steps which might not favour him.

A man that could do such is a murderer. Just imagine the pains he would have put me through… everlasting sadness, depression and psychological trauma. I think such a man should be convicted for attempted murder and he deserves whatever verdict the court renders. Many would pretend to say their minds, but the truth is that no one would take that, no matter the initial love, except there was a blood oath binding both parties.


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Shade
I think I will still keep my vows till death do us apart. The best thing to do is not to worsen his situation because AIDS is not the end of life. I loved him before I married him and nothing can change my love for him.

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Tosin
It is a life journey since we refused to do the necessary things before marriage. Ignorance is no excuse. Whatever happens should be taken in good faith.


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Samuel
If we failed to carry out any HIV test before marriage, I would say it was a silly mistake from us both. But all the same, relationship and courtship is a period of confiding in each other, irrespective of the circumstance. A lady who has hidden such secret from me is dangerous and evil. A doctor might not tell you to divorce her and likewise a pastor would frown at it. They will only advise you to keep praying to God for divine help. So what are we saying in this regard?

Without me saying anything, I believe the lady knows the solution to the problem she had caused.
May God forgive us all sinners, but I don’t want to die prematurely.



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M. Shade
It will be very sad, disappointing and evil even in God’s sight, but it doesn’t call for a divorce, except you agree never to re-marry till he dies. But may God help us all to take the right step at the right time and not take the right step at the wrong time.



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Obadare
There are some tests we should not even pray or think of. No matter how spirit-filled you are, if this happens to you, the flesh would want to lead you astray and take you over, thereby putting God’s precepts by the side and operating on your own understanding.
It takes God’s intervention, but God will not even watch you fall into that situation.



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Brown
It’s a serious issue and ignorance is not an excuse. No one should be blind with love. It’s just stupidity, not love. It is love that should ginger both of us to undergo HIV tests. We are no longer in the dark ages when our forefathers suffered in ignorance . But whatever prompts me to marry blindly, I think, should still make me remain in the marriage.




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Sade
May God not give room to the devil to tempt us . This is a serious issue, especially when it comes to church marriage. God is not happy with divorce, except one agrees to stay single till the spouse dies naturally. That is truly hard to handle and difficult to seek counsel on. You might eventually lose your friends and become an object of ridicule in your neighborhood. Is it the stigma you want to think about or what?
How long shall I continue to endure that?


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Yemi
May God have mercy. If both parties refused to go for HIV tests during courtship, I think it should not warrant divorce, because a stitch in time saves nine.
The truth is bitter, but we cannot please others at our own expense. It’s not done anywhere in the world. Save your life before anyone else’s.


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Solomon
We will settle it amicably and we have to call it quits, because the relationship was built on deceit. Even the court would justify my reaction and decision, except she wants her parents to know what she was hiding from everyone. In that case , no problem.


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Saheed
First, if we have had fun together before marriage, I would be sorry for myself. But if there was no intercourse between us before marriage and she happens to be a virgin and was confirmed on wedding day, even after her confession, I think I would respect her for that and take it that she contracted the virus perhaps through blood transfusion or un-sterilized needles. But I will still love her for being faithful and forgive her for not telling me the truth ealier.

It simply means she has so much respect and love for me, at least to have kept it secret all the while. That is why it is not good to engage in pre-marital sex, because there are many things surrounding it, beyond what we see. I have no other choice than take her the way she is . Love endures so many things. If I tell her parents, it will not change anything, so life continues. It is for better or worse. May God help us all. It is not easy to manage as we think, considering the psychological effect and your reputation.

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Librabilex at 03:59 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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well it sill be so devastating at first,,,but if i sincerely want to abide by the oath..for better for worst i got no potion than to continue a pray for miracle
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wunzie at 04:15 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Brown
It’s a serious issue and ignorance is not an excuse. No one should be blind with love. It’s just stupidity, not love. It is love that should ginger both of us to undergo HIV tests. We are no longer in the dark ages when our forefathers suffered in ignorance . But whatever prompts me to marry blindly, I think, should still make me remain in the marriage.

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Makasine at 04:51 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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TOTAL RUBBISH. Imagine the insult and injury. That basically means that our love was based on lies if he can keep such a huge secret away from me. Watch me walk out the door and never look back. If such an evil man can lie about something so serious who knows what else he is capable of doing or have done? What happened to telling me before you propose to me so that I can ponder on the issue before making any drastic decisions. The man forgot that he is not in the marriage alone and there is nothing worse than being in a marriage with an unhappy spouse.

The AIDS ridden man is a selfish bastard that deserves what ever he gets.
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moneyinbrakemi at 05:10 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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O boy NA PLAY BE THAT__ABEG STOP AM!!!
COS MY BLOOD FLOW GO STOP IMMEDIATELY__I fit DIE b4 the test sha!
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bittersweet at 05:27 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Oh,come on!
Everybody knows that those kind of tests are mandatory before getting married, so that's not possible to happen!

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do4sure at 05:28 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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If i have been chopping from the pot b4 that day I will continue but if my partner is"wait till marriage"type count me out virus is not a kids play.
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Ceenod at 06:45 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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mehn God forbid me any such experience. 4 d woman in questn d man nt telln her is a deliberate nd selfish act nd the woman remainin in dat marriage wud deny herself any form of happiness. How are they gonna hv kids? Truth b told d woman does nt hv any reason 2 remain married.

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bafyguy at 07:04 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Na waoooooo God have mercy. I go break d law b4 she finish d story
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nice9ija at 07:30 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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i will just run out of the house and never return.......maybe we keep talking on phone till..........
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moneyinbrakemi at 08:14 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 05:27 PM, 19/09/2010
Oh,come on!
Everybody knows that those kind of tests are mandatory before getting married, so that's not possible to happen!

Hmm! NOT ALL O....Some have too much trust and are often blinded by love
so they ignore this test of a thing!!!!
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bittersweet at 08:17 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:14 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 05:27 PM, 19/09/2010
Oh,come on!
Everybody knows that those kind of tests are mandatory before getting married, so that's not possible to happen!

Hmm! NOT ALL O....Some have too much trust and are often blinded by love
so they ignore this test of a thing!!!!

In my country that test must be done before! I'm serious!
So,it's not a matter of trust! We have to do it,so no surprises after!

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moneyinbrakemi at 08:20 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 08:17 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:14 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 05:27 PM, 19/09/2010
Oh,come on!
Everybody knows that those kind of tests are mandatory before getting married, so that's not possible to happen!

Hmm! NOT ALL O....Some have too much trust and are often blinded by love
so they ignore this test of a thing!!!!

In my country that test must be done before! I'm serious!
So,it's not a matter of trust! We have to do it,so no surprises after!

That's ur own COUNTRY na? Here in NAIJA they take certain things for granted
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bittersweet at 08:28 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:20 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 08:17 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:14 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 05:27 PM, 19/09/2010
Oh,come on!
Everybody knows that those kind of tests are mandatory before getting married, so that's not possible to happen!

Hmm! NOT ALL O....Some have too much trust and are often blinded by love
so they ignore this test of a thing!!!!

In my country that test must be done before! I'm serious!
So,it's not a matter of trust! We have to do it,so no surprises after!

That's ur own COUNTRY na? Here in NAIJA they take certain things for granted

I see Undecided

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aminatalib at 08:29 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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hmm..i would sue him...
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moneyinbrakemi at 08:32 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 08:28 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:20 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 08:17 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:14 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 05:27 PM, 19/09/2010
Oh,come on!
Everybody knows that those kind of tests are mandatory before getting married, so that's not possible to happen!

Hmm! NOT ALL O....Some have too much trust and are often blinded by love
so they ignore this test of a thing!!!!

In my country that test must be done before! I'm serious!
So,it's not a matter of trust! We have to do it,so no surprises after!

That's ur own COUNTRY na? Here in NAIJA they take certain things for granted

I see Undecided

Its good to know you see things from my own perspective this evening...
So where is this your COUNTRY that abide with Rules? I guess Rome
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bittersweet at 08:46 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:32 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 08:28 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:20 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 08:17 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: moneyinbrakemi on 08:14 PM, 19/09/2010
Quote from: bittersweet on 05:27 PM, 19/09/2010
Oh,come on!
Everybody knows that those kind of tests are mandatory before getting married, so that's not possible to happen!

Hmm! NOT ALL O....Some have too much trust and are often blinded by love
so they ignore this test of a thing!!!!

In my country that test must be done before! I'm serious!
So,it's not a matter of trust! We have to do it,so no surprises after!

That's ur own COUNTRY na? Here in NAIJA they take certain things for granted

I see Undecided

Its good to know you see things from my own perspective this evening...
So where is this your COUNTRY that abide with Rules? I guess Rome

Come oooooon!

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Ozie267 at 09:35 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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hmmm dis isnt a childs play o,some1 who could hide dis information for long is capable of doing anytin.i will leave even before he finishes wat he has to say.
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mazi at 10:23 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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it is absolute deception and betrayal.

Wen it comes to health, ur would be spouse have the right to knw of any ailment wotsoeva u r having.

If he/she wants to go ahead wit the marriage, fine. it would hv bn based on fore knowledge of the condition.

Anything outside that is a TRUST murdered!

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xter at 10:59 PM, 19/09/2010 (8 years ago)
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I go just faint

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